If you asked someone out on a date or were asked out by someone would you want to know they are transgendered (prior to going out)? If a transgendered person has to continually announce their original birth gender to others do you believe they can ever truly feel their transition is complete?
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I agree. There is no intention to offend anyone by simply stating when (you) would like to be notified. There is no "right" or "wrong" when it comes to one's personal preference. Thanks for your answer.
Thanks for the correction in terminology but I'm unable to edit the question at this point.
Based upon your answer (you) wouldn't want or need to know if you were going out with a transgender person on a first date. You may be in the minority.
I would venture to say I am more open minded about this issue than many people, because I know more people whose gender is fluid or evolving than many do. It's not a big deal, and I don't think it would be a deal breaker for me.
I do see the difficulty in this situation for a transgender person & respect that. It should also be respected that some people live differently & don't want even 1 date if they're not heterosexual & born of the opposite sex.
If someone is that worried about a date with someone who might be transgender, it's on them to ask, before they make a date, if they are biologically the gender they are presenting. Take responsibility, rather than making it someone else's problem.
Lisa, I don't think anyone is out to make the situation anyone's "problem". People have the right to have their own expectations & approach to dating.
That goes for the transgender person as well. It's an individual's preference.
Maybe I wasn't clear: instead of expecting someone to divulge all their intimate details before you go out, maybe it's wise to just ask, if it's something important to you, instead of being angry later because they didn't read your mind.
Very funny! Thanks for your answer.
Most people seem to be answering this question from the view point of the transgender person. The other half of the question is would (you) want to know in advance of going out with someone or not, or even on the first date?
I would want to know. I would want to know that person for who they really are and also I would need time to process and decide if I want to continue the relationship or not.
That makes sense to me.
I believe most people (assume) if you look like a male or female you were born that way which explains why the subject would not likely come up. Some folks might call it lying by omission. Other folks like you don't mind. Thanks for your answer!
"I personally would not want to waste my time or anyone else's in a romantic way and would possibly even feel that I was tricked if I were to be told by them later rather than sooner."
Good point! Everyone has their own idea of proper decorum
My guess is most people today still do (assume) one's gender.
Thanks for your answer.
Thanks for your answer. Some people have indicated they wouldn't need or want to know in advance. There really is no "right" or "wrong' answer. Everyone is entitled to have their own preference to be informed early on or not.