Disregards to what people think, marriage is not between two people, but two families. But if your girl friend is an orphan, then she got no family. In fact, my cousin dated a girl that was once an orphan and he don't even need to impress her parents.
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emi..my heart goes out to you. Friction w/ a MIL is a real thorn in one's side. Just so UR husband is supportive of YOU, it's easier to handle. IMO a mother should go above & beyond to get along 4 her son's sake. YOU're the "new" family member.
Thank you! It does complicate things quite a bit. I am very respectful of her and though I am sometimes offended by her, I find it is best to let it roll off my back as much as possible in order to keep the peace.
You are wise to do that...and the better, bigger woman. Good for you.
Still think choosing the right in law, isn't important? Bad in law = problem. Emily is a life example, right here. You are very lucky your sons didn't experience this sort of problem, but not everybody is so fortunate.
"problem" inlaws can B ignored or tolerated. You can move AWAY. Set boundaries, limit visits. B the bigger, better person, like Emi. Inlaw strife/stress will not KILL you. Be real, grow up & deal with it. There R worse things in life. USE HUMOR!
Asking a wife, not to talk to their parents, because u don't get along with them, is inhumane. This choice is worse, then avoid marrying women, that come with bad in laws.
TRUE! That would be cruel! Since the wife gets along fine w/ her parents. Look like her spouse NEEDS TO GROW UP & STEP UP TO THE PLATE TO MAKE THE EFFORT! Cop outs! If U would not marry someone U love bcuz U don't like her parents, YOU'RE A FOOL!
Lust is not enough for love, love is not enough for marriage. There are more important things in the world, then love.
I have family. Trust me, you are not missing out on anything. There is a reason why there is a saying "You can choose your friends, but not your family." a family is only what you said, if it is the right family and real life ain't the brady bunch
Maybe you are ungrateful, but I'd take a pain in the butt set of parents over none. I missed out on having a mother to guide me through parenthood, parents to be there for graduation, etc. Real family doesn't have to be perfect, drama is part of life
You do know some people might have a mother who is eg a drunken irresponsible slut or stand by and do nothing while her step father rape her etc. There is a reason there is such thing call Child protection service
I'm aware, I come from that, but MOST families are not like that. So basing your opinion on the minority is ridiculous. If I can come from that and have hope for other families surely you can too. Family is usually good even when they are annoying.
Those are extreme case as example, but even more ordinary, family are people, eg we see movie such as "meet the parents" or "monster in law" and think its funny, but stuff like that really exist and when you meet those people, things get complex
If the person you are with is someone you love you learn to adapt to make the situation work. My in laws sire aren't ideal, we're opposites. I make it work because that's what a responsible adult does when they love someone.
Some people, u can make it work, others, unwise. U are married, now, so its too late. But I tell sister (she is 17), before u decide to commit to a guy, see what sort of parents he got, because they are going to be an important part of ur life.
My motto "Lust is not enough for love, love is not enough for marriage", "Never let your feeling surpass your logic." "It is better to marry somebody who love u, then somebody u love." that is what I always teach people
FYI - I believe English is a second language for peter565.
He does not reside in the U.S.
This may explain some of the issues with his sentence structure.
Point taken & appreciated Dash. NO profile doesn't help him. Besides, after 15 mos. his efforts should IMPROVE. I vowed not to complain to HP re: the rampant poor grammar (as others do.) I address the writer. I've grown weary of the low quality.
You obviously don't know the problem in laws can cause. In laws from hell, in comedy movie such as "Meet the parents" and "monster in law" might be funny to watch, but if you meet in real life, it is a very different story.
Agreed. I don't know about these potential issues because I've never experienced this. Instead I have done whatever possible to create peace & harmony 4 those I love most in this world. My sons.
And to protect ur sons, if they come across such monster in laws, would u still recommand for him to marry this girl. Or would u hope, they would break up, even if u don't suggest it?
What I "HOPE" 4 my sons is health, happiness & success. & I TRUST they are mature, sensible & bright enough to choose wisely. At this stage, I no longer "protect" them. They protect ME! They & their inlaws gel perfectly. We ALL do.
That is lucky for your sons, to marry women that come with decent in laws, but not all people, are decent people, as in laws. So again I ask u the same question "What if ur son is to marry a woman, that come with problematic in laws?"
I trust my sons R wise,mature & strong enough to rise above & solve or tolerate. Ur insistence that inlaws have such power to harm is melodramatic & exaggerated. A couple's concern needs 2 B w/ one another. Strife & stress must be ig
Yes,but when they first started dating their current partner, it is unlikely they know their parents, so, I ask again, if it turns out their girl friend's parents are monster in laws, would u prefer they break up?