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Are women aware most men only pursue women for dates that they're physically/sexually attracted to?


At the end of the evening a man attempts to kiss her. She turns her head or pushes away. The man leaves after the rejection feeling used in some way and the woman is offended feeling as if the guy had a sense of "entitlement". Just because he took her out he expected to make out! She only said yes to the date because the activity sounded fun or she had nothing else on her calendar. Do you believe political correctness allows women & men to hide their true agendas for approaching dates since neither side openly states their motivation to the other. Do we even care (why) he/she asked/said yes?

 
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13 months ago
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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    Michaela, You hit the nail on the head!

    I'm not saying women owe men anything for going out on date. Men aren't openly transparent about (why) they ask women out and women aren't transparent about why they said yes. Motives are hidden by both.


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13 months ago
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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    "I've had guys ask me out who I KNEW I wasn't going to be interested in and I would never say yes.." Do you know women who'd say yes to a free meal, concert, play, or whatever knowing they have no interest in a guy?

    Both genders ignore motives.


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13 months ago
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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    Excellent point. There are many guys who believe with success they can have any woman they want. They don't have to have a six pack, a head full of hair, or be over six feet tall. Playboy founder Hugh Hefner at age 86 married a 26 year old. hmm


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13 months ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 13 months ago

    "I want something deeper before I even think about something physical, even as innocent as a kiss." Amen to that, Ameraka.


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    Paula (fpherj48) 13 months ago

    Dash,My my,what is WRONG w/ U? I would no more say THAT to a man, than I would jump off a cliff! If I'm not initially "attracted" to him, I might say YES & after getting to know him, realize I AM attracted to him! Y reject possibility from start


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13 months ago
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    Yves (savvydating) 13 months ago

    Paula, I completely agree. If a woman does not kiss a man on the first date, and if he has a problem with that, then something is wrong with him. I too, never feel that I owe him anything but my company, especially on a 1st date. Sheesh!


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13 months ago
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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    I can see that. However would you say most men pursue women for dates they're physically attracted to for spending their money/time with?

    I suspect most don't court women they find unattractive. And yet they act as if sexual attraction isn't...


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13 months ago
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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    One would (hope) so!

    However apparently a lot of men aren't good at reading signals!:)

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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    I don't believe it's case of "quid pro quo" as much as it is men assuming women use the same criteria for saying "yes" to a date as men do for asking them out. If it's a no-brainer it shouldn't be viewed as if he felt entitled when making a move


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13 months ago
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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    Ken, Thanks for your open & honest answer.

    If women accepted this as fact they'd hopefully turn down date offers from men they're not attracted to. Men mistakenly (assume) a woman said yes because there is {mutual} attraction! Gender differences


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13 months ago
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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    I doubt the book cover is worth more than the content.

    However most guys won't discover the content if they aren't attracted to the cover.


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Lori Gypsy Hunter (Lori Hunter7) says

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13 months ago
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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    "If you communicate with one another and listen then you will find out what the other person's agenda is." - Very true!

    Many women refuse to accept the fact men approach them (initially) based upon physical attraction.

    Men {assume} it's mutual.


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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    Knowing how someone thinks puts you in a far better position to make an informed decision. If a woman acknowledges a man asked her out because he's attracted to her and she says (yes) but isn't attracted to him "potential miscues" may arise.


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