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What are some reasons people have affairs?


In my work, I have found that "stepping out" happens for no one particular reason other than that the betrayer CHOSE not to uphold the commitment to the sanctity of the promise. We can enumerate the reasons but the bottom line is the choice to break the commitment or the vow. Thoughts?

 

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    Janis Leslie Evans (janshares) 11 months ago

    Excellent analysis of motives behind cheating. Thank you very much for answering. I agree.

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    Janis Leslie Evans (janshares) 11 months ago

    Thank you so much, Rebecca, for your "two cents" answer which is worth a lot more. I appreciate your wisdom and experience on the matter. I too, have worked with the betrayed and the betrayer and vote for compassion, on both sides, every time.

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    Janis Leslie Evans (janshares) 11 months ago

    Much love to you, too, Manatita. I appreciate your answer and agree that weakness and human nature are culprits that often lead to the decisions we make. I have a poem hub that toys with this notion. Thanks for your wisdom.


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    Janis Leslie Evans (janshares) 11 months ago

    I've always believed this, too, Madan. Monogamy is unnatural which is why it's so difficult to maintain for so many. Thank you for your answer.

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    Janis Leslie Evans (janshares) 11 months ago

    You're right, Robert. Great and accurate reasons but not valid excuses to cheat.


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    Janis Leslie Evans (janshares) 11 months ago

    Absence of love is certainly a factor for some couples. Thank you for answering.