Do beliefs matter in a marriage? IJN Jas(author)
Do beliefs matter in a marriage?
IJN
Jas(author)
A married couple were having marital problems because she changed her life for the better and he doesn't want to change his. He doesn't read the bible or go to church. Her religion teaches her to do those things so she thinks he should do the same, but her beliefs also teach her that she is bound to him by the holy law of marriage. If he cheats/fornicate, she can get a divorce. If he dies, Jehovah forbid, then she can marry another.
IJN
Jas(author)
"A married couple were having marital problems because she changed.." Nothing more needs to be said after "she changed".
It could be religion, wanting children, or any other major thing.
She is no longer the same woman he fell in love with!
" she thinks he should do the same..." (Not content changing alone?)
So now she wants or expects him to change because she did.
Very few people are walking around with one hand raised in the air screaming: "I'm looking for someone to change me!"
The majority of people want to be loved and accepted for who they are. When we change our circumstances change.
If one person insists upon their mate changing there is a good chance they could end up divorced.
We're either "growing together" or "growing apart".
Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys.
Ideally the goal is to marry or date someone who (already is) the kind of person you want to be with. Never take on a "project".
Whenever we attempt to "change" someone we experience frustration on our part and our mate experiences resentment.
Essentially (she) upended their marriage with this change and if it's truly that important to her she needs to divorce him and find a man who shares (her) beliefs. Otherwise live and let live.
They don't give out "whoopee cookies" for staying unhappily married.
Just because you teach a fox not to eat the hen doesn't mean they are an ideal couple. If your or your mate has to "change" your core being in order to make a relationship work it generally means you have chosen the wrong mate. Expecting someone to become who they are not is equivalent to expecting a cat to bark.
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