Say a white person does not want to date black people. However, that white person has black friends, and respects black people as equal human beings. He or she just doesn't want to date a black person. Does that make this person a racist? You may say that it is superficial, but keep in mind that a people need to be physically attracted to one another, especially in the case of men.
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Tammy! Where are you? Who told you (all) blacks were different in "dialect, clothing style & behavior?"
Look at your President!
Every race is made up of (individuals)!
It's foolish to make a blanket assumption the color of someone's skin dictates their values and beliefs.
Mike Tyson and President Obama are worlds apart.
Not all white people are the same either.
And yet conservative blacks are called "race traitors" or liberals say they aren't really black.
NOT TRUE! I have all levels (economic, education, etc) of individuals w/in my family yet all do not call President Obama "traitor" but BLACK.
Blacks (to society) are "perceived" as people of "ignorance" yet I see that in all races!
The fact that there are black conservatives and black liberals proves my point! Colin Powell, Condoleezza Rice, Shaquille O'Neal are registered Republicans! Some conservative white people use the term "liberal" as being weak or amoral.
Therefore, racism is TRULY "judging" which is against GOD'S WORD!
Judging is not against God's law - judging people by standards you will not abide by is the sin, AKA, hypocrisy. We are morally called out to call out evil and wrong, or else there is no enforcement of morality in day to day life.
"JUDGING" can ONLY be done with GOD'S WORD not to justify "our PERSONAL opinion(s)!" That why Scripture tells us to "Judge RIGHTEOUS Judgment" (Jn 7:24) & what is RIGHTEOUS but WORD (Is 8:20)!
REMEMBER: Gal 3:28!
Thank you for sharing a great story from your personal life, Yoleen.
That's fair. People who have issues should work on them so they can be more desirable. In matters they can't help, they can compensate with their personalities. When I was in my late 40s, I was asked out by a 15 year old!
Love your picture, btw!
What if you only date giant supermodels?
Would you be on a social climb?
That's one way to do it...
But Muslim Men do have a lock on being terrorists, and as we can't tell which are terrorists by inspection then it is like giving up donuts. Plus Muslims don't believe women are equal?even without that how many people outside of Muslims believe in it
You made some valid points. However I don't think people need to worry about their race disappearing.
Ultimately we're all part of the "human race"!
A Porsche Carrera GT in any color is a Porsche Carrera GT. :)
"Human Race" notwithstanding, true wealth is in the diversity of life. During the last 40 years 11 species of animal have become extinct. The extinction of a culture, or race of people is no less a tragedy.
I don't believe most people approach mating with the idea of needing to preserve their race or culture. If they meet someone where they share values, a mutual attraction, and the chemistry is there they go for it!
Life is a (personal) journey
I agree. The majority behave like livestock. Grazing and breeding are their primary concerns. Ironically, their personal pursuit of happiness only diminishes the potential of happiness for future generations.
The biggest racists I've seen in this issue are blacks who attack black men for seriously dating and marrying white women, like Clarence Thomas did, but have no issue if he just knocks her up and abandons her.
Surely the Golden Rule could be "If either party is not fully involved and in agreement, don't "do anything" that would spoil the friendship."
No it's not.
By that logic all gay men are sexist because they exclude women, all straight men are homophobic because they exclude other men. You're being a bigot in your attempt to put down imaginary bigots.
A sexual preference or orientation is not racism, which is what the question asked about. Nice try.
Wrong as wrong can be - dating and intimacy aren't subject to man made constructs - are gay people heterophobic because they don't date straight people?
Again, sexual preference is not race, which is what the question asked. Preferring men over women is not the same as saying "I will not date black people".
Then gender is also a meaningless construct, am I right?
"Preferring men over women is not the same as saying "I will not date black people"."
That depends. When a gay man prefers men over women he is implicitly saying "I will not date women because I am not attracted to them."
Racism is hating someone based on their race. That has nothing to do with dating. I have never been attracted to Asian men. That does not make me racist. I don't hate Asian men, I don't believe anything bad about them, It's not racism.
It's simple if you don't want to date someone because of the skin colour it's racism, nothing else.
Comparing gays with colored people is a false comparasing. Homosexuality is hard wired in the brain, racism is not.
Thank you guys for making sense. Race and sexual orientation are not mutually exclusive. You can be any color and be gay. No one knows unless you want them to. Black people have no choice. Those who have "passed" have done so for a reason.
Would you find it hard to believe that someone could say they aren't attracted to anyone from an entire gender? That's how most of us operate. Some people just aren't attracted to the physical characteristics of certain races.
To be honest I do find it strange that someone could say they've never been attracted to someone from either gender but that's a different conversation. ;)
It does happen. It's called being asexual.
Sorry, I meant that I find it strange that someone who usually finds men attractive has NEVER found a woman attractive and vice versa, not that someone has never found anyone attractive. But I understand it happens. Just hard for me to imagine!
I have never " desired " a female...ever. I don't tend to notice whether a woman is "attractive" or not. Presumably this relates to the sexual disinterest. No offence intended. It's just way I have always been. But friendships? Yes. Plutonic.
Rape is not a crime of passion; it is hateful violence that simply takes on a sexual nature. Men who rape despise women, so they don't choose them for their beauty.
What you're saying could make sense but I don't agree for the simple fact that one doesn't know all people that pertain to a race. All black people have different features and don't look like what media/tv portrays as a black person.
Completely mumbo jumbo. It's racist if you use the colour of skin as a reason not to date some one. We're not even talking about sex or a relationship, just a date.
It sounds like you are explaining racism. I think a person shouldn't date outside of race to prove a point. Date who you like.
Helen..psst! While I may agree w/ UR thoughts on racists limiting their base of many good people~4 future reference, Grace is a black woman. I've not known her 2 ask questions based upon her own personal experiences, but 4 feedback from readers.
Paula, I haven't had the pleasure of meeting Grace and I am not likely to remember her skin color in the future. But if you are going to play "Devil's advocate" (I know she does not actually advocate for the Devil either, you usually want all results
I have no desire to play Devil's advocate, Helen. I merely thought it important to know that Grace herself has never come off as racist, so I doubt this was her intention. That's all. Yes, all results are preferred.
I completely agree with you Helen, well said.
But must everyone be attracted to every race? Does there have to be a reason for someone to not be attracted? So if a person is not attracted to another, but chooses to date them out of fairness, I feel like that's not fair to the other person.
No, you don't have to be attracted to every race.
With that said however, I find it highly unlikely that a person cannot find ANYONE of the opposite sex from multiple races attractive without there being some underlying reason.
I guess I find it likely, but that is based on personal experience. If a particular race exhibits the same type of physical characteristics, and one's preference is based upon certain physical features, this seems not only likely but predictable
Same physical characteristics? You can find two people from any race who look nothing alike. Even skin tone varies within race. I have a very hard time believing someone could find an entire race unattractive w/o something else at play.
Certain races share similar phys. characteristics, and some ppl aren't attracted. That's it.Assuming that someone is likely racist simply because"you have a hard time believing"how anyone is not attracted, is illogical, ego-centric, and narrowminded.
It's illogical to assume that every person of x race shares one underlying characteristic that just happens to be the one you aren't attracted to. Are there examples?
If anything we can drop the racism part and just call it being shallow.
One could equally say that they prefer certain characteristics, and a particular race just so happens to not have those. (Hair color, etc.) Is it shallow? Perhaps, but is it anyone's business what another person's criteria for attraction are?
Funny, I'd say claiming an entire race doesn't have your preferred physical characteristics is illogical, ego-centric, and narrowminded.
That's more of a difference of opinion. You apparently see races as not having characteristics similar overall, but others do. None of us owe anyone else an explanation for our attraction preferences
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Ashton Firely, we both have to admit that Link10 has reason and every race has all hair colors, blacks can have red hair, blond hair, brown hair with blue eyes and more and dismissing someone just based on their skin tone IS racist (Google them)
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