The idea that there is (Only ONE Person) out of 7 BILLION people living on this planet that would make an ideal mate for each of us is ridiculous! I believe in the idea of "soul-mates" but not a "sole-mate"
Scarcity, luck, chance, and coincidence have always been a part of romantic myth of finding "the one" when it comes to love.
One doesn't have to be a mathematician to figure out when you have 7 Billion of anything odds are in everyone's favor that there are more than a few people who would make an ideal mate for each of us.
The concept of "the one" is based upon our natural tendency to (exclude) rather than (include) when it comes to finding love.
For example if a person states "the one" has to be a member of their own race that automatically (eliminates Billions of people) right there! If you went on to say he/she must have the same religious belief that will cut down your options by several billions more.
We narrow things further by stating "the one" must reside in our own country, state or town.
All of this is before we get to height, weight, age, occupation, education, hobbies/interest, and goals....etc Last but not least our family and friends MUST also like him/her and vice versa!
It’s no wonder that by the time we get done EXCLUDING people there is ONLY one "right one" left!
Lets assume you are looking for someone with the following traits.
Attractive, Positive, Affectionate, Considerate, Loving, Healthy, Romantic, Passionate, Great Sense of Humor, Intelligent, enjoys traveling to exotic destinations, Honest, Trustworthy, Loyal, Dependable, Financially secure/responsible…etc
Surly out of 7 Billion people there must be “one” person who fits this profile! Odds are there millions if not billions with these traits.
Another reason why finding "the one" is a challenge is because our "requirements" for him or her evolves or changes over time.
That perfect guy or girl at ages 16, 18, 21, or 30 may not seem so ideal to us at age 35, 40 or beyond.
No one is going to be able to read your mind, complete your sentences, or fill your days with sunshine for eternity. You determine how large your pool of potential mates is going to be by your method of including or excluding. Naturally the fewer options you have the more difficult it becomes to find a "suitable mate".
Ultimately we are all looking for someone who we have chemistry with and naturally agrees with us on the major things in life!
“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen