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What is the appropriate response if a friend who is truly unattractive is depressed about being so?


Attractive women seem to post about feeling unattractive quite frequently. If I don't see such a post on facebook on any given day, I just need to pay more attention to my feed or wait a bit longer and I will. The standard response to such postings is to tell the person how attractive she is to help her recognize her mind is telling her lies. But what if the person is genuinely unattractive? What then? I've thought about it because I am actually ugly and know there's no such easy fix for my feelings. What's the appropriate and kind response to someone ugly feeling depressed about being ugly?

 

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Yoleen Lucas (Say Yes To Life) says

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    Threekeys 14 months ago

    Try building up more of your inner shine.

    You may already do this but maybe you need to note it consciously when you either are congruent with your life values. Or doing acts of generosity without expectation of return. Chi changes.Something happens


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    Kylyssa Shay (Kylyssa) 14 months ago

    I've already got a partner; I want to avoid rude comments in public. I see the posts from pretty women every day and the response is always the same- tell her she's pretty. It occurred to me it only works for pretty women & ugly women are people,


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    Kylyssa Shay (Kylyssa) 14 months ago

    I've been professionally dressed, styled, and made up many times, yet still had to endure rude comments about my appearance while all done up. Your answer is kind and sweet, but not a reflection of my reality.


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    Kylyssa Shay (Kylyssa) 14 months ago

    I really like your answer, but you don't need to feel sad. I see those posts from pretty women every day and everyone responds the same- tell her she's pretty. I wondered if people had any responses that place value on her as a person instead.


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