Attractive women seem to post about feeling unattractive quite frequently. If I don't see such a post on facebook on any given day, I just need to pay more attention to my feed or wait a bit longer and I will. The standard response to such postings is to tell the person how attractive she is to help her recognize her mind is telling her lies. But what if the person is genuinely unattractive? What then? I've thought about it because I am actually ugly and know there's no such easy fix for my feelings. What's the appropriate and kind response to someone ugly feeling depressed about being ugly?
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Try building up more of your inner shine.
You may already do this but maybe you need to note it consciously when you either are congruent with your life values. Or doing acts of generosity without expectation of return. Chi changes.Something happens
I love the comebacks! Unfortunately, rude people seem to be there wherever I go. Sarcasm > I wish the men who raped me when I was homeless had known they were only supposed to rape pretty girls. < Sarcasm I'm glad you dumped that rude "friend.
It's a shame you have to carry the scars of an extremely negative experience, and continue to suffer from it! I hope you can get that corrected. Because of how it happened, perhaps it can be considered a disability, and insurance will cover it.
I've already got a partner; I want to avoid rude comments in public. I see the posts from pretty women every day and the response is always the same- tell her she's pretty. It occurred to me it only works for pretty women & ugly women are people,
I didn't realize that half your face had fallen or that you cannot close your mouth due to an overbite. The overbite can be fixed and you could look into the other. Medical science can do wonders nowadays. Feeling prettier does make a difference...
It's great you have the social skills to get a partner!
For sure. But we can't control what outsiders think or say---except to put them in their place.
I find it extremely unfortunate you're around people who would add to your torment! I wonder what would happen if you told them the reason. I once heard a story about a mother who was ugly; it turned out she had rescued her baby from a fire.
I've been professionally dressed, styled, and made up many times, yet still had to endure rude comments about my appearance while all done up. Your answer is kind and sweet, but not a reflection of my reality.
Ky, I have a really tough time imagining that intelligent, socially-wise, courteous adults just come out w/ rude comments about your appearance! Who the hell R these rude, crude, people? Seems like all U need is a different circle of associates!!
It's been mostly strangers making comments since I've been an adult. The last was from a complete stranger in Burlington Coat Factory a few weeks ago. I don't get to choose the character of people who use public spaces with me.
Kylyssa. No. Some 30 years ago, I did a cosmetic exam. My subject was a lady who had a stroke. One side of her face was hanging, the other side normal. I got 100% for the exam because by the time I had finished, you couldn't see that she had a stroke
Half of my facial features have drooped ever since my serious head injury at 18 and the same attack made closing my lips over my overbite even more difficult and added scars. I've never found any way that I could camouflage my teeth and lower face.
A dentist could fix your overbite. I've heard that a good acupuncturist can help with fixing the face somewhat---or a good plastic surgeon, if you could save up.
May I ask? Is your profile picture, YOU? Because I see an attractive profile of a woman with lovely hair.
My profile picture is a drawing I made.
Kylissa, I used Hollywoiod movie techniques which I learnt from books on how actors have their faces made up. For instance, they can make someone age 40 years or look younger than they are. All illsion.
You are an excellent artist!
Here is a link I found that tells how to deal with strokes:
Do you live near a ghetto? How else could they be cruel enough to harass you!
@Yoleen It's mostly been women of the upper middle class, but the young men a few weeks ago may have come from one of the 11 Bible colleges nearby. It must be me because it's happened in every city I've lived in.
When I gave money to my Christian high school attempting to save it, my former counselor tried to lead me off the subject by rambling on about the charming daughter of a former crush. After the school closed, I threw Matt 25:14-30 at her.
I really like your answer, but you don't need to feel sad. I see those posts from pretty women every day and everyone responds the same- tell her she's pretty. I wondered if people had any responses that place value on her as a person instead.
Yes, I see what you mean. I'm sure it depends on who's judging a person. It's safe to say most men are all about "looks," especially body & sex appeal (let's face it). I on the other hand, can see a whole person & find many qualities.
Update - my ex-friend called a couple weeks ago. She IS homeless. Meanwhile, I'm working in a book teaching money management to teens.
Here's another link to comebacks for insults: