He withholds intimacy and tells me I need to be patient and wait for him to come to me .... Which could be weeks of waiting
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Thnx for responding Keith. The problem is we are not even 6 months married and says I am ""demanding""something from him that he is not able to naturally do. I have such a difficult time accepting that, he was so doting and caring before marriage ?
He may be "in the closet" to avoid disappointing his parents and others. It's not unheard of for men in heterosexual relationships or marriages to later "come out".
I know that he is not cheating... I would KNOW, trust me.... Been there before and not naive, his ass would be to the curb !!!. I have more than 30 Yrs of marriage behind me. I would rather be alone than be unhappy ... He knows it !!!!
DebsV, It sounds like you ARE unhappy but you're not alone.
dashingscorpio, I am not happy right now and don't know if the damage of his behaviour can be reversed. I feel Iike a total loser and of no fault of mine , except making a wrong choice !!!
DebsV,, Don't be so hard on yourself!
You are not alone. According to Psychology Today 20% of all marriages are sexless. (1 in 5).
Some folks choose to accept it, others have affairs, and some file for divorce. Making a decision is tough.
Absolutely I am responsible for whatever I choose in my life .... I have chosen not to SETTLE... By having a very open and necessary discussion with my hubby and have let him know .... I choose not be an an option in his life, NOT negotiable!!!