Relationships become complex in my mind simply because we make them so. They do not have to be. It would appear that the majority of us in our endeavour to attain something we desire only believe we have the best when we have had to struggle to get it.
We do not go out of our way to plan to complicate our relationships it is almost a natural response. I believe if we follow 3 basic rules we are less likely to fall into this trap.
1. Before entering into a relationship try to find out as much as you can about the person you want to relate to. I am a firm believer in purposeful dating i.e. not dating someone for just the sake of it but dating with the desire for a long term meaningful relationship.
When you find out the key things that matter to you, it will help you to know from the outset what you are getting into. Of course you can never be 100% sure the person is telling you the truth but usually there will be an inner conviction that will guide you.
The more you know at the beginning about the person the more it will help to make it less complex later on when you face the normal challenges relationships can enter into. In short there should be less surprises!
2. Being real. If you enter a relationship with an agenda other than being yourself you most definately