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Should I be mad that my mistress is sleeping with a friend of mine?


I know there is no honor amongst thieves, so to speak, but should I be upset that a former friend of mine has hooked up with my mistress. I feel that I am in love with her, and have entertained leaving my wife for her. However, she is from a lower economic strata than I am and has two children 11 and 8. I would love to be their stepdad, but wondering if entertaining the thought of ever being with this woman is foolish in light of what I have indicated?

 

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    Hermit Mink 13 months ago

    i have no kids...the other woman does though...but you are right....it still hurts...


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    dashingscorpio 13 months ago

    James, My guess is very few people on their wedding day (plan) to cheat on their spouses. Those who do are probably "unhappy' about something they feel doesn't rise to the level of getting a divorce. I suspect people cheat for different reasons.


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    Hermit Mink 13 months ago

    Thank you Tamara for a non-judgemental answer. I appreciate it.


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    Hermit Mink 13 months ago

    Thank you for your response, Paula. I am a work in progress. Coming here and getting honest feedback is truly helping me, and I hope for others to grow. We all have issues. What are yours?


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    Hermit Mink 12 months ago

    Yes to all you said. I am devastated though. I know I have no right to be. I wish I never met her.

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    Hermit Mink 12 months ago

    Thank you! I have been working on focusing on marriage.


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    Kiss andTales 12 months ago

    Paul I love your comment "fantasy not a reality " fantasy come and go and reality is stability that you created togather, history , backbone, no one can take mentally what you have accomplished togather, but people just might throw it away,100/20


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    Kiss andTales 13 months ago

    Morality is exactly what's wrong in the world today, to many people want to throw it out the window, well the problem with the question is he is applying moral to his friend ,when he has no right .he is married. So you are wrong.


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    Yves (savvydating) 13 months ago

    Don't take this advice unless you want to end up in the same miserable place you are now. Why keep repeating your mistakes? Time to grow up.


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    Hermit Mink 12 months ago

    But with my friend? Out of all the guys she could have met!? Lol but yes, ultimately you are right. I am just heartbroken. I need to repair my marriage.


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    Aime (Aime F) 13 months ago

    "Don't ask a woman for advice when it comes to ____" is such a condescending BS statement unless the ____ is "shaving a beard" or "efficiently washing your penis."


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