If a celebration feels like it's "work" that defeats the purpose.
Holidays, vacations, or anytime designated for celebration is about having FUN or enjoying oneself! All of which is optional.
The trick I suppose is if you're in a relationship that your mate is agreement with you. Natural compatibility trumps compromise!
What makes people cynical is feeling "obligated" to follow a romance novel routine when that's not who (they) are.
Fortunately each of us is free to (choose) whatever we enjoy.
Life is a (personal) journey!