I have so much trouble with people because I can't tell if they are friend or foe until they stab me in the back. Do you have any suggestions that might help me?
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I try to see good in everyone and thus I get burned a lot. But sometimes, I think it is worth it to see the good others try to hide so they can look big.
Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship and friendship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart.
Not everyone is worth your "emotional investment" or time.
Thank you for your inspiration, dashingscorpio, however my 'gut feeling' about people doesn't seem to work. Part of my problem, I guess, because I don't seem to get a gut feeling about anyone, am I missing something?
Probably not. A lot of people prefer to go on "auto-pilot" when it comes to meeting new people and "watching" things happen instead of being "proactive" and being the driver in their life decisions. Taking charge of life is a "conscious choice"
I doubt that Cheryl will become cynical and I know you're not suggesting she will. I agree that we must continue to enjoy life, but we still have to remain alert. Evil has a way of contaminating whatever it touches. We must therefore be cognizant.
True Yves, so true. And it's good we remind one another of keeping our antennae up high & in condition. It can be easy to fall back in some circumstances and it's usually when we get re-injured!
Thank you for your words of kindness. I see so many people who just 'knew' someone was bad, yet I only see the good in all and then get hurt a lot.