So I'm fairly new in my job (a couple months) fresh out of University. However there's this great looking young lady and like myself she's new to the organization. I was the first one to make a move, by inviting her to lunch however she accepted but it didn't work out because we are on separate ends of the compound and it's not easy getting across in time. We talk GREAT over the phone but whenever there's an opportunity for us to meet up it doesn't seem to happen. She's extremely nice but I can't tell if she's serious or just using me as a past time. She likes me or she likes me not?
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"It's easier to find a new girl you like than to find a new job"......Makes sense
The problem I have however is she's very up and down...
She doesn't seem stand offish from conversations. She's really nice and we talk about meeting up. however.....
Yes, but is it (you) or her that keeps it from happening?
When it's not a "good time" does (she) ever come up with an alternate time or plan?
Some women are "nice" to everyone and don't want to hurt a guy's feelings. When will he get the hint?
Sooooooo..Are you saying she's trying to send me a message...?
Reasons outside of our control prevents us from meeting up. But she's playful n defensive at the same Time when I try to bring more intimate topics.
'If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse.' - Jim Rohn
I truly believe if (both of you) want it to happen it would happen. After being shut down several times by "obstacles" one wonders.
"If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse"
Nice quote...I see you write a lot of hubs on the subject of romance. So you should give great advise.
In one go, what can I do to win her over.
There's no real work-around besides spending some time together. You can try SKPE, phone calls and emails until she feels comfortable.
You may want to check out my book. https://www.amazon.com/Cat-Wont-Bark-Relationship-...
Oh wow you wrote a book....
I got to say...Good answer Pam..Glad to know I have a chance..:) :):)
What did you mean by N emotional detective btw...
I'm wondering if I lost her though cause recently I've been a little impatient n weak. We still talk though
I mean Love comes with many emotions and she will notice the odd ones. Although it will be hard try to control your emotions. Take your time and get to know her and I believe it will end well.
I asked her out again next week and she said "sure".
So let's see how things turn out.
Well.......thanks for the advise. I had lunch with her last week. It was ok not great or anything. So she's still a hard one to read. I'm still on the friendly-guy-I-had-with-list. So I'll see