He shouldn't be trying to badger you into feeling affectionate. If he had his head on straight he would woo you and soothe you in an attempt to heal your wounded soul and nurture your inner being.
Feelings can't be forced. If you attempt to be "affectionate" even when you don't have your whole soul behind it, it will be fake. Is that what he wants, for you to fake it? If he does it would seem to me he has a few things to learn.