Should I move on or wait for her?

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   Drew niteposted 13 years ago

   Should I move on or wait for her?
   
   We both really care about each other. We seemed like we were perfect for each other. The problem? Miss communication on both ends: we are both from different countries and have different cultures, so we had a little culture clash. Any way, she thought I was not interested, and I thought the same. She moved on, but then we realized that it was all miss communication. But, she now has a boy friend. I do love her, but I do wonder how realistic or how wrong it is for me to wait for her?

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   M.s Fowlerposted 13 years ago

   I think you should move on if she has a boyfriend because it sounds like she has. The right person will come when the time is right!

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   6hotfingers3posted 13 years ago

   It sounds like you have not accepted the truth about your lost relationship with this person. You have too much going against you to try and restore this relationship , For example distance and cultural values. It sounds like you did  learned a great lesson from it all. The value of communication is the lesson. Build from that and move on.
   
   Long distance romance has a slim chance of making it in the first place. In your case the odds were greater for a loss because the two of you were seeing the same thing differently. I believe that is the way it would have always been.
   
   Find someone with similar values as yours and more accessible to each other. Its nothing like being their in the flesh. You can do it!

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   TheGoodnessofLifeposted 13 years ago

   Are you still living in different countries? If so, DEFINITELY move on. But either way, if she has a boyfriend and is serious about him then I say move on. If it's meant to be then it will happen naturally. No need to put your life on hold to wait on someone who's already taken, they could end up being together forever, then you would have wasted all that time waiting on her for nothing and you could miss the chance at your perfect girl. So I say move on. Good Luck! I hope things work out either way!

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   Drew niteposted 13 years ago

   I am sorry! I do not think that I was clear: we both currently live in America, but we were both born in different countries.
   
   We were dating, and dating other people. We started to fall for each other, and everyone else was becoming a faded memory.
   
   The problem: I was not too familiar with her culture. She wanted to become more serious, but her expression was indicative of her culture, so I did not really understand it, for my culture did different things. I did not reciprocate in a manor that correlated with my feelings and was in line with her culture.
   
   After she moved on, I finally got a chance to talk to a friend of mine who is of the same culture as her. According to my friend, in the past when she did the same things to a guy and he did not respond in the expected manor, she was heart broken and cried for weeks, for it meant that the guy was not interested in moving on any further with her. She said they only do certain things when they really like you.
   
   I agree with a lot of you guy's comments: move on! That is what I say, and it is what I have been arguing. My female friends, including the one I mentioned above, feel that we were meant for each other, and feel that that is a good enough reason to wait for her. TheGoodnessofLife, you echoed a lot of the same things that I said. I do love her, but I am a realist. It will be if we are meant to be together.

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   Rhonda Waitsposted 13 years ago

   Long distance romance almost always never works out. This is true. They just fall by the way side. If she has gone on and started dating someone, then let her go. She has made her decision. If it does not work out an your still around, consider seeing each other then, Usually relationships don't work out when red flags start popping up. Find someone your more in tune with, sometimes this helps.Searching for love an happiness is not always the answer, start by being true to yourself an those you care about. Then love will find you.

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