If this is an ongoing issue between the two of you, maybe you need to consider moving on. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who is not sure if they want to be with you? Do you want to keep your feelings on hold while he decides if and when he wants to be with you? It doesn't seem fair to you! You are only allowing yourself to fall deeper in love with him when his feeling may never develop to match your own. It sounds like you guys need to really have a deep and serious talk about what each of you want. Hopes this helps!