I recently broke up with a woman (very good looking) after 3years. she was alway

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   hpoen4funposted 13 years ago

   I recently broke up with a woman (very good looking) after 3years. she was alway accusing me of...
   
   not paying enough attention and cheating on her (she is very insucure) and has ocd. I work in the same office with her and she is dating another guy in the plant .How can I keep professional and still do my job without the drama I need to move on

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   Kira Leeposted 13 years ago

   The best suggestion I can give is treat her like a sister.  I know it sounds weird, but, if you will put that in your mind you can manage to have a friendly relationship at work.  Everytime you have an emotional connection to a thought or something you see, like if she walks by you, etc, simply think "sister, sister, sister".  It's amazing what you can put up with when there's a family connection rather than lover.  Hope this helps and best of luck!

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   manthyposted 13 years ago

   Just move on , start dating and treat her like an ex

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   John B Baddposted 13 years ago

   Your best bet is to stay away from her.  If you talk to her only do it on a professional level and do not be pulled into any drama or cause any yourself.  If she wants to talk about non work things and you feel you must (because you are one of the men who thinks you can be just friends) then meet her somewhere nutral like a coffee shop and discuss things.  But your best bet would be to stay away and move on.

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   vydyulashashiposted 13 years ago

   don't bother her at all..just move on.try to be with your friends,laugh always and find a girl who is perfect to u

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   jtboswellposted 13 years ago

   First, let me say how sorry I am that you have to go through this. Three years is quite a bit of time. Break ups are especially hard when you have to work with a person you just broke up with. If you have to work in close proximity with her, I would suggest you maintain your professionalism and be respectful so your job security is not an issue. I don’t know why you mention how she looks, the OCD or why you mentioned her insecurities. At this point, those things are irrelevant as well as unimportant. Not only are her problems irrelevant to you, saying she has OCD is wrong. OCD is a medical term. If you are not a license therapist, please don’t label or use it to define someone else.
   Some how you are going to have to find a friendly medium so can work get along with her in the work place. The only way to avoid drama is not take part in it. If she says something you don’t like, ignore it. Avoid being alone with her so unpleasant altercations don’t take place. You can only control you own actions, not the actions of others. The best way to move on is to take it day by day.  Always be respectful; regardless of another’s animosity or immaturity. Not only is the right thing to do, it will better for you and help you move on more easily.

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