Thank you for your question. When there is weakened trust in a marriage or love relationship-- which is what may be the case in your marriage-- it is a wake up call to make some changes.
Take a look at how you two interact with one another regularly. Do you find yourself holding back with him? Do you feel safe to open up and be as intimate (emotionally and in other ways) with him as you'd like to be? How does he tend to treat you?
It is important for you to look at how you can shift your focus back to your marriage and to dissolve any blocks to trust and intimacy, BUT it is also important for you to not take the sole blame for the mistrust and distance in your marriage.
If your husband is jealous and is wrongly accusing you of inappropriate conduct, this is will also add to the disconnection. Communicate honestly and openly about what you want (this may be that you don't want to be accused) and also what you have been doing. Create agreements with your husband that will help build trust and connection.
Susie and Otto