Dating at 40 is about the same as dating at 30 and 20. The boys get more settled and women are able to sort through the bad ones sooner! Dating isn't all about what's on the outside anymore, its more about what the other person has gone through to get to their status in life. Other similarities between the things you like and he likes are still true. Beyond the shadow of a doubt, truth plays the biggest note in a relationship over 40. No one wants to settle down with a dead beat, gold digger and rightly so! I'm closer to the 40 mark and I know that my standards are way high. I prefer to go to church, sit through classes and learn about the people around me before I actually say yes to even a dutch date.