First, I would say that, your life is your own. So this is the perfect point to work from. Just know that, at times we have to some extend conform to the standards of someone we love to try and work things out. This however does not always work out, so dissatisfaction sets in and the fruits,heart breaks. Thus we do not have a choice than accepting this ugly truth and deal with it and the more earlier we do this the better and faster recovery is.