Without communication there is no relationship.
Someone who is "in love" with you is not going to go 10 days without talking to you.
When a person stops caring about the feelings or concerns of their spouse or significant other the relationship is coming towards an end.
No one person can "save" a marriage.
Both people have to acknowledge there is a problem and commit to making things better by following certain steps.
If your husband is willing to go through marriage counseling you may have a (slim shot) of saving your marriage.
Becoming his doormat just so that everything goes his way is not going to make him love you more. If he won't meet you half way then he's not "emotionally connected" to you.
My guess is when you were dating he never went 10 days without talking to you. His actions indicate you are not as high as you once were on his priority list. A wife should out rank the status of a girlfriend in everyway. (Therefore you should be getting MORE respect today than you got when you were dating him.)
You might do better to start looking out for yourself and make plans for a future that does not include him.
I know that sounds harsh but only YOU can decide if you can continue to live your life with a man who treats you like this.
We have the power to either accept things as they are in our life or change our life. "Waiting" for someone else to decide your fait is a very weak position to be in.