I wouldn't say specifically men, money or security. Haven't you ever had your mind idle? You're thinking of tons of different things, but not one thing you could pick out and say 'I'm thinking about this' ? It could be about work, relationship with s.o., a friend, a family member, cooking, decorating, budgeting, next building project, the pets, the kids, sex, life in general, food, happiness, past hurts, past times of joy, an upcoming event, thinking about things you'd like to do, sex, wondering if the route you take to work is the most efficient, the freakin weather... Really. Everything and anything. At least, for this female.