I am far from the expert but the first big question is do you want a large, medium, or small wedding? How many guests do you want. Who are the guests that you would like to be there. After you decide the size, you can then shoot for the type of wedding and the location. Are you going get married in a church, outdoors, by a lake, what would make the both of you happy and make it the most memorable day of your life? Then you can decide on the colors, you usually pick two to three colors for your theme. Do you want brides maids? Do you want a best man and who will this be? Flower girls, ring bearers? Do you want to have a big after party, caterer, outdoor fling, no party afterwards at all? What type of flowers do you want? What type of cake, how about champaign? The best way I found to help me make all of the decisions was to make a list, after I decided what type and size of wedding that I wanted. Hope this helps. I wish you the best in your future marriage.