Loneliness: How to find your inner strength in solitude
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Feeling hopeless is like a black cloud of despair choking the life right out of you. You need a positive change, but yet you are living as if your life is being sloshed through in vain
Drawing strength from loneliness
"Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct they paths." Proverbs 3:5-6
Two things in life go together, whether we like it or not: Loneliness and Patience.
Those two words are like a newly forged two edged sword because we wanted everything yesterday and can't understand why it's taking so long today.
Loneliness is a strong sense of emptiness. It may be from a lack of mental stimulation and social interaction; a loss of hope. Loneliness drives us to form emotional detachments from certain things: activities, people and places.
In any case, when a person finds themselves in a hopeless state of loneliness, the in-evident occurs.
"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God and are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28.
We don't have to fear loneliness or isolation. God does have a purpose and a plan for our lives, regardless of what hardships we go through.
So that being said, the truth is people are walking around defeated, wondering why in the world did God forsake them? Why would a higher power such as this God leave us in this state of hopeless abandon? Loneliness softly cries out inside slowly, until it festers into a disease of mass proportions.
God uses our times of isolation and loneliness to teach us life lessons for an ultimate purpose. We wanted everything yesterday, remember? Some times what we desperately desire to have is not in God's will for our lives and he shuts the door. Disappointments and unanswered prayers leave us questioning God and his motives in our lives. We either choose to walk away from the father and out of his will, or we stand in faith, learning perseverance and patience through our trials.
"Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience." James 1:3. In the winter season, the maple, sycamore and walnut trees look as if they had died. The twisted branches stretch out like witches arms across the yard. My children often refer to these trees as "Spooky woods". They look lonely, isolated, frozen in a state of helplessness. They are not very attractive and I don't really want to be around them. So in the winter, they stay in their cold, lonely state....waiting for spring.
Does this sound familiar? You were put in your lonely state of isolation for a season of "conditioning", a time of "training", until the next season arrives and God delivers you. And you feel as if no one wants you or to be around you, but how you act and what you choose to do during this lonely time will determine your outcome. Use your time wisely!
God often uses those times in our life to prune us of unnecessary acts or sins we may be hanging onto, to teach us a lesson; but he does it slowly and with compassion so you can come out victorious, enabled to stand the next trial in your life.
Believe me, another trial will always come. That is life.
To find the blessings in the painful solitude you are facing, I suggest you do one of many things: Seek God's will, which means developing an active prayer life. Study your Bible, which means, you need to see the importance of your "alone" time with God. And again, patience. During that time, you will learn the awesome value of waiting for God's answer and you will have no choice but to rely on God for your needs, embracing his compassion and comfort for your life during this time of loneliness.
Remember that lonely tree in your yard that stands naked all winter? It is cold. Twisted branches. Not attractive. But it has hope, it perseveres; because it knows as spring approaches, it will be delivered from winter's frozen grasp, and allowed to once again emerge from its lonely isolation. God looks at you in the same manner.
Just as that tree serves a purpose in God's perfect timing, God also has a purpose in your time of unending wilderness. Don't lose hope. Don't give up. Keep persevering, even when God seems silent to your needs. Just remember God puts you in times of "Silent solitude", giving you just enough "loneliness", to bring you out in his perfect season of purpose for your life.