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The Pitfalls of Having a Backyard Wedding
Having a Backyard Wedding Requires Thought, Planning and Tradeoffs
Unless you are able to land the grounds of a country estate along with the servants, hosting a backyard wedding may not be what you think. Let's explore the downsides that may not come to mind when someone's backyard is graciously offered to you for your wedding.
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Think Hard about a Backyard Wedding
Backyard weddings are very popular now as couples look for ways to save money on their weddings. But there are downsides which we will explore here.
Even if Mom and Dad or Aunt Sue and Uncle Mike have offered the use of their backyard for your nuptials, let's consider the following:
1) Size of the space
2) Readying the Grounds
3) Cost of rentals - tent, tables, chairs, delivery charges
4) The hosts can't enjoy the festivities
5) Wear and tear and neighbors
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I want a garden wedding, when he and I are wed
I want it in the sunshine; we'll save on food instead
I can wear a summer frock and sandals if I please
So I want a garden wedding, with flowers and lawns and bees
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Whether you've chosen a Wedding Venue as an alternative to someone's backyard or not, there are still so many things to do and lots of opportunities to save money!
Size Limits of a Backyard Space
The size of the grounds of a typical suburban house backyard, along with covenants or municipal ordinances will likely limit the number of wedding guests to around 50. This is just a rule of thumb. Of course, fewer persons will lower the costs of rentals and catering. Be prepared to pare down the guest list.
Getting the Grounds Ready
You may have to start planting a year before to have the flowers blooming for the wedding, along with an appropriate lawn expanse for seating, dancing, milling around and tables. You will likely have to build or rent an arbor as a place for the couple to exchange their vows.
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The Cost of Rentals
The host home likely does not have enough tables and chairs for seating and serving your guests. Plus you want everything to match and be suitable for standard linens. There probably isn't a dance floor either or a Tent to cover everyone if it rains.
The one-day or weekend rental of tables, chairs, a dance floor and perhaps a party tent are not cheap. And that is before the charges for delivery and insurance.
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Who is Hosting the Wedding?
There is a downside of hosting your son or daughter's wedding that you may not be thinking of as you shine with pride. Unless you hire an experienced planner for the day, You (the parents) and maybe other family members will be scurrying around taking care of details instead of enjoying the wedding. And, when it comes time for cleaning up, no-one wants to even think about that, after a night of partying, dancing (and perhaps drinking).
If you go ahead with offering the kids your backyard, consider very much hiring someone to handle things.
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Neighbors & Wear and Tear on the Grounds
The number of guests, noise, music, parking etc. may be limited by the customs, laws or HOA of your neighborhood.
It may all be worth it, but, all that work getting the grounds ready may be short-lived. Think about trampled grass, trash, broken glass. You get the picture.
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What is the Bottom Line?
While it is so gracious for someone to offer the use of their backyard for a wedding, remember that the offer of a backyard leaves many things still to do and pay for.
Consider an outdoor or garden wedding at a Wedding Venue, Arboretum, Reception Estate or other similar property. They will have the expertise and staff to attend to the details and let you enjoy the Wedding to the fullest!
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