ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Confidence: How to be More Confident.

Updated on April 12, 2011

Confidence is the ability to wake up every morning, and feel like you are ready for anything that comes your way.

Confidence is knowing that no matter what, you know who you are, and you know you are a great person.

Confidence is the design we create for ourselves to what we think is a decent/great person.

confidence is something that most people want.

confidence is what all people can have.

Now that we have cleared up a little bit about what confidence is, let's take a little bit of a more psychological look at it. Confidence has always been described as the ability to believe in yourself and your talents. There can be a big stumbling block in someone's life that prevents them from attaining a certain confidence level that he or she wants. It could have come in the form of your upbringing by your parents. Maybe your parents always made you feel like you were a great person, but you weren't the best person you can be! I think you know what I mean....it's that positive reinforcement, but not 100% positive. It is like, "we believe in you, but we don't think you can do that." something along those lines.

Maybe you started feeling insecure about yourself in school. This is almost always the big hit right here.

All growing up, you have a fun free life, from young infancy to maybe middle school. You have no worries in the world except for what painting you'll make next, or what game you want to play. As you begin to grow older, your friends change, your world changes, everyone's (including yourself) interests change.

That's where judgment and ridicule start to really take effect on a person. You start to become more aware of what you look like, and how others see you. For some people, this can be a great thing, for others, it might not be so great.

So how do you change all this?!

Every morning, when you wake up, I want you to look at yourself. Truly look at yourself, and think just what kind of person you think you are. Are you the kind of guy that doesn't like to be noticed? Do you like other's attention?

If you know you suffer from lack of confidence, I want you to constantly repeat phrases to yourself in your head. (not out loud, you don't want people to think you're crazy!) Phrases that build confidence like, "I'm a decent guy" "people like me" "people notice my worth" I'm an attractive person" "people like to be around me"

phrases like those listed above, help you to keep repetition in your mind, and remind yourself of who you want to be.

People can change, people change all the time. This isn't lying to yourself, this is changing things about yourself you do no like.

So this was part one of how to be more confident. We looked at how we as people develop self esteem issues, and one good way to overcome them. Next, I'll be giving assignments and other exercises to developing a confident personality.

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • eli grey profile image

      eli grey 

      8 years ago from Philadelphia, Pa

      Hey dude. This is actually helpful because, well, I lack self confidence every day of my life. I mean I try to remind myself of what I can be or what I can do but sometimes it feels so good to give up.It's almost like that's what I'm used to. At the same time I don't want to be a nobody who grows old and is full of regrets. I always try to change things about myself but I realize when I can't change them, that maybe it's who I am. Still, people can change and only we can make the changes. I guess I'll have to try harder. Thaks for the article man.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)