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Confidence: How to be More Confident.
Confidence is the ability to wake up every morning, and feel like you are ready for anything that comes your way.
Confidence is knowing that no matter what, you know who you are, and you know you are a great person.
Confidence is the design we create for ourselves to what we think is a decent/great person.
confidence is something that most people want.
confidence is what all people can have.
Now that we have cleared up a little bit about what confidence is, let's take a little bit of a more psychological look at it. Confidence has always been described as the ability to believe in yourself and your talents. There can be a big stumbling block in someone's life that prevents them from attaining a certain confidence level that he or she wants. It could have come in the form of your upbringing by your parents. Maybe your parents always made you feel like you were a great person, but you weren't the best person you can be! I think you know what I mean....it's that positive reinforcement, but not 100% positive. It is like, "we believe in you, but we don't think you can do that." something along those lines.
Maybe you started feeling insecure about yourself in school. This is almost always the big hit right here.
All growing up, you have a fun free life, from young infancy to maybe middle school. You have no worries in the world except for what painting you'll make next, or what game you want to play. As you begin to grow older, your friends change, your world changes, everyone's (including yourself) interests change.
That's where judgment and ridicule start to really take effect on a person. You start to become more aware of what you look like, and how others see you. For some people, this can be a great thing, for others, it might not be so great.
So how do you change all this?!
Every morning, when you wake up, I want you to look at yourself. Truly look at yourself, and think just what kind of person you think you are. Are you the kind of guy that doesn't like to be noticed? Do you like other's attention?
If you know you suffer from lack of confidence, I want you to constantly repeat phrases to yourself in your head. (not out loud, you don't want people to think you're crazy!) Phrases that build confidence like, "I'm a decent guy" "people like me" "people notice my worth" I'm an attractive person" "people like to be around me"
phrases like those listed above, help you to keep repetition in your mind, and remind yourself of who you want to be.
People can change, people change all the time. This isn't lying to yourself, this is changing things about yourself you do no like.
So this was part one of how to be more confident. We looked at how we as people develop self esteem issues, and one good way to overcome them. Next, I'll be giving assignments and other exercises to developing a confident personality.