- Gender and Relationships
Communication hasn't always been my strong point of focus in a relationship. It's always been a struggle to explain my opinion to my partner. To be open, honest, and opinionated with my partner always caused me some sort of anxiety. Primarily because I didn't want to sound stupid or wrong.
Communication is the primary exchange in any relationship. When a partnership starts to form, each party must communicate their wants, needs, and future perspectives. How hard can it be?
Actually, it can sometimes be harder than you think. And it has to do with the person that is being communicated to. It has to do with the person's personality and exchange.
Ideally, I would prefer someone who is open to ideas no matter how silly it may be. If the person is closed to certain ideas or opinions, the communicator will either start being defensive or closed off. Both communicators need to not only listen and observe, but they must be open to all opinions.
I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a tall, dark, and handsome Nigerian gentleman currently living in England. We communicate through text, voice, and video calls. What makes communication more difficult is the 5 hour time difference. But we continue to efficiently communicate.
We are two open individuals to each other's opinions. Sometimes we clash but also agree with each other's opinion. Most importantly, as partners who communicate, we listen and acknowledge each other's opinion and stance on a topic. And we take turns speaking to each other. There are no arguments and definitely no yelling because, by that point, communication is moot and unproductive. Like any relationship, we have disagreements but we do it in a civil manner and we don't take it personally. Our communication style is the best I've ever had with a person because he is always open to my opinion even if it's an opinion he disagrees on and I feel the same.
Two people can be lost in translation without the proper communication. Wars have started because communication has been scarce. When communicating with your partner, be open to their opinion and their answer even if you may not agree with their view. And if either party feels like communication between each other leads to volatile conflicts, maybe you should evaluate your communication style and consider changing it.
Communicate. Even when it's uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is simply getting everything out.