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10 Reasons Why Dating a Married Man is a Bad Idea!
Know what you're getting yourself into when dating a married man.
Love is blind? Love has no restrictions? And whatever else you can come up with to justify the idea of dating a married man, is probably not going to take you anywhere in life.
Of course, he might shower you with passionate love and treat you like his queen but for how long exactly?
Do you have any idea how many men lie about having problems with their wives, how they’re about to get divorced soon and so on just to pull and keep another side chick for pleasure?
Okay, let’s talk about the 10 ultimate reasons why you should never want to date a married man.
NO 1: He might have problems with his wife but he LOVES her.
Stupid hormones make anybody want to fall for lust. Have you ever heard about people cheating you thought would always be super faithful to their partner? It can happen.
This married man you’ve been dating probably has a lot going on behind the scenes with his wife. He might have been building up his anger and frustrations against her and looked for ways to get relief from his marriage stress.
Do you know what the popular lie cheating married men tell their girlfriends?
“I’ve never felt this way with any other woman in my life, not even with my wife.”
Don’t fall for it.
You walked into his life at the time where he just needed someone to talk to about everything with, someone to give him rest and happiness from family stress. That’s it. It stops right there. You give him temporary happiness and pleasure, that’s all he is going to take from you.
NO 2: 8/10 times, he sees you as nothing more than a friend with benefits or a side chick.
Take a moment to think about what his main intentions are every time he meets you. Does he want to go to public places like beach, movie or anywhere just to spend some quality time with you? Or does he always want to go to places where he will be able to get all intimate with you?
If it’s the second one, there is a damn good chance he’s been lacking it from his wife for some time or temporarily bored of her and wants pleasure from a new woman.
Do you want to be the side woman?
NO 3: If he has children, he LOVES and will always love them more than anyone else.
He might have whatever issue going on with his wife but if he has kids, this guy will always have a soft spot for them. There is nothing wrong with that, he has to be a good father to his kids at least.
It will be a problem for you if he ever happens to move in with you or introduces you to his kids.
99.9% times, kids don’t get along with their daddy’s new girlfriend and will always be possessive of their father’s love. They might start hating you because you stole their dad from their mom and do whatever it takes to cause problems between you and the man.
Who do you think he’s going to believe no matter what? His kids of course. He will get rid of you sooner than you can imagine if you continue to get in the bad side of his children.
NO 4: How finely can you bond with his children?
If by any chance he divorces his wife and marries you, he is still going to be seeing his kids and bringing them to your home. He will want and expect you to sort of act like a second mother to them. Are you ready for that?
Also, if you happen to have your own child with him, he is still going to love his first wife’s children equally or more. He might even start hating you if he ever catches you comparing his children with your one or attempting to ill treat them.
NO 6: Ever heard of KARMA?
Karma exists and it doesn't just get people back once, but it can hold on to them forever if it wants to.
At this moment of your life, you’re being selfish and only thinking about your happiness. You want to be with this married man because you think you love him or whatever but have you taken a second to think about his wife and family?
Have you taken a second to think about the pain she will go through if and when she finds out her husband has been betraying her? The tears you bring out from another woman’s eyes, Karma will get you back 5 times harder for it. No joke.
NO 5: If he’s betraying his wife behind her back, how can you be 100% sure he won’t do the same to you?
What if he was the one who treated his wife badly? How could you even be sure whatever he told you about his wife is true? You probably don’t even know the woman. Has he even showed you a picture of her?
Pay close attention to the stuff he tells you about his wife. Chances are he could be telling you a whole bunch of lies just to have you tied up on his pinky finger.
Don’t ever believe it if he tells you he loves you and you’ve only known him for a few months. Yes, it is possible to fall in love with someone quickly but when it comes to a married man, NO.
Where the hell did he put his marriage morals and the trust his wife has for him?
Don’t be quick to believe him and judge his wife with him because, what he says about her is a slight hint of the kinds of things he could say about you if you ever break up.
NO 7: You only get a small portion of his time.
You’re dating a married man. Never forget the fact he has a family of his own. He sure as hell doesn’t want to get caught by his wife or family members that he’s cheating with another woman so you will only get a limited amount of time to spend with him.
You probably will not see him when you want to see him but only when he can manage to come over. If you annoy him about not spending enough time with you, he will only get annoyed and regret meeting you.
NO 8: How long are willing to play hide and seek?
Remember this, you can never rush a married man to divorce his wife so he can be with you permanently. It has to be his own action done in his own time.
He might have told you he will divorce her soon, but “soon” in his dictionary could mean over 6 months, a year or more.
Until then, you will have to cope being the hidden side girlfriend and play along according to his rules. It might be all sweet and lovey dovey in the beginning but as time goes by, you will find yourself losing your inner peace and energy.
All for what? Trying to keep a married man happy, that’s it.
NO 9: You’re missing and might never find your MR.PERFECT
While you’re getting dragged along dating this married man and playing according to his rules, you might end up missing the chance to meet and marry the guy who was meant for you.
How will you have time and space to look for your actual hero if you’re 24/7 worried about dating a married man?
NO 10: Once the fun calms down, you will be left with 2 things: Regrets and Depression.
Once he gets used to you, he will start being more comfortable with you.
Being comfortable could mean, he might not take you seriously anymore. He might not even call or text you regularly or come up with lame excuses for why he couldn’t. He will officially start seeing you as his mistress.
He obviously can’t spend nights with you. You will find yourself being lonely and depressed half of the time and eventually start regretting.