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Why You’d Want to Meet a Cougar

Updated on September 4, 2011

About meeting older women (cougars) to date

So, why would you want to meet a Cougar?

One of the reasons so many younger men seek out older women is because they just don’t connect with women their own age.

There’s also sexual component to it. Many adolescents fantasize about losing their virginity to older, experienced women. Even after men become experienced themselves, some of them continue to have a sexual fantasy involving an older woman.

Older women are experienced. They know what they want in the bedroom. This confidence leads to better sex. Younger women are more likely to be timid.

Aside from sex, there are also emotional reasons to date older women. Cougars don’t play the “head games” that women in their 20’s seem to think are necessary in a relationship. Older women also have more life experience which makes life with them more interesting. She also genuinely understands men and their needs.

A Cougar doesn’t need your money. Not only is she not concerned about the prestige of your job, she also doesn’t care whether you take the “long route” to getting one. For this reason, many men who are pursuing advanced degrees, working on developing a career that doesn’t have immediate potential, or pursuing a passion, find older women to be more understanding about money issues.

She also isn’t going to be concerned about your not being able to pick up the check every time. One of the best things about Cougars is that they have money of their own and they’re not afraid to spend it.

Finally, a Cougar will be more relaxed about commitment. She is not going to be rushing to the alter. More than likely, she’s already been married once, so the “big day” is less important to her.


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      Amanda Jones 4 years ago

      Nice hub, interesting facts, i have a hub in the same subject, feel free to read it and leave a comment.

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      Prior experience, that's what the cougar is supposed to share to her boy-toy.

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      spryte 8 years ago from Arizona, USA

      Exactly Anna...it would be like trying to give a college education to a kindergartner or....or....promoting a McDonald's hamburger flipper to sous chef at a fancy restaurant. Simply not done.

      He should have some prior experience so he can genuinely appreciate what a cougar offers.

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      Indeed..... skip the training, go straight to the "practicum".

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      Anna Marie Bowman 8 years ago from Florida

      I agree, who has the time to make all those diagrams, illustrated handouts, step-by-step instructions. Then, they usually fail the first few tests, anyway. All that hard work...

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      spryte 8 years ago from Arizona, USA

      I'm not sure about other cougars...but I'm not really interested in virgins.  Who has time for all that training? 

      Refinement...yes. But having to deal with an over-eager puppy type that has no control whatsoever? Nope.

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      lol, yeah, men can be so thick!

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      Drop Bear 8 years ago from Upper Gumtree

      Someone offer cross-species cougaring here? I'm a 3 year old virgin and rarin to go.

      And I already know what Spryte tastes like. Yum. Buuuurp.

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      Anna Marie Bowman 8 years ago from Florida

      Busted, Spryte!! Strange, I was watching tv, and they were talking about pick-up lines, and some study done. It said that men prefer very blunt, straightforward pick-up lines rather than more subtle ones. I could have told them that without all the expenses, time, research and all that. Men do not understand subtle hints!! I nearly have to smack my boyfriend upside the head with a hint in order to get him to follow.

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      spryte 8 years ago from Arizona, USA

      Twenty is good too...and you can use all the pick up lines that were ever used on you. Works like a charm ;) My favorite one is to give them a small kiss and then say, "I just wanted to see what you tasted like..."

      Uh....wait no, that was somebody else that did that...and I heard about it...

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      22 they have the stamina

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      Anna Marie Bowman 8 years ago from Florida

      I feel old today, but I guess I'm not old enough to be a cougar.  Can I still date younger men?  I don't mind if they are 8 years younger than me!  LOL!!

      Just a note, I am very, very close to 30, so he would only be 22!

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      spryte 8 years ago from Arizona, USA

      OMG....Did nobody see THAT???? BT said he is beginning a world domination tour in 2010 starting in CHINA!! I knew it!!! Give me those phoney antlers you Giant Grey Rabbit North Vietnamese agent!!!

      *launches a flying tackle across the room at BT Evilpants*

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      Hi Mighty Mom,

      I like the ratios, but I think that it's more like:

      If she is 35 he is 22 If she is 40 he is 28 If she is 45 he is 26 If she is 50 he is 29 If she is 55 he is 33 If she is 60 he is really working for an inheritance!!

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      mayhmong 8 years ago from North Carolina

      Where is everybody at???!

      We are having a hub chat as of now!!!

      AEvans, GT, C.C Riter, Jibrio are all there?!!!

      http://www.chatmaker.net/chatap/rooms/hubbers/

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      Susan Reid 8 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

      Using Christoph's algorithm, here are the age differentials I have calculated.

      If she is 35 he is 28

      If she is 40 he is 33

      If she is 45 he is 38

      If she is 50 he is 43

      If she is 55 he is 48

      If she is 60 he is really, really desperate

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      Don't say no to anything until you walk into it... or something...

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      2C's 8 years ago

      Hi Sahlini!

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      Shalini Kagal 8 years ago from India

      Haha - so this is where all of you have been hiding out - cougaring, of all things!!! :D

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      You think os toad. Pest needs help on his hub internet woes too

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      gwendymom 8 years ago from Oklahoma

      Oh ok, well have fun then.

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      Everyone should believe in romance before sex, get to know a person, and see what they are about and if they are spiritual

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      We're in Mays chat

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      gwendymom 8 years ago from Oklahoma

      Must be me CC. I post and everyone runs away!

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      Just like that. dead flacid, where is all

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      cruise hunny

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      Randy Behavior 8 years ago from Near the Ocean

      Where should one shop for these thirty somethings?

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      gwendymom 8 years ago from Oklahoma

      Isn't that the typical mood for you CC?

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      CC is horny now!

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      gwendymom 8 years ago from Oklahoma

      I;m just saying CC. I like the idea of a man knowing what to do with his stuff. I don't need high school flashbacks.

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      Christoph Reilly 8 years ago from St. Louis

      Although opinions vary, the general consensus is that a woman needs to be 35  or older and dating at least 8 years younger than she. 

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      jjrubio 8 years ago

      thats good! How are you my dear CC?

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      Man this dudes score went to 85 now

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      raiderfan 8 years ago from Arizona

      Hell Yeah! Cougrs know wassup and how to do it good!

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      What I miss? had to make beer run. Gwendy!! rally on their scrotum? hwere'd you see that? oh gawd!

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      jjrubio 8 years ago

      Yeah..no virgins for me..no sabe nada...I like a man who takes over in the bedroom. Experience is a must!!! They need to take their lady in there arms and ravage her. Show her that he's a man... LOL

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      gwendymom 8 years ago from Oklahoma

      hey Randy, thats a good question? How old do you have to be to be considered a cougar?

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      Randy Behavior 8 years ago from Near the Ocean

      OK how much younger does a guy have to be before I'm a cougar? And if he has money is he a sugar baby?

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      you guys are rich! how's a broke virgin supposed to come up with 20 bucks?

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      gwendymom 8 years ago from Oklahoma

      Hmm, I always thought I really wouldn't want a virgin. I mean really I'm not sure I want someone who has training wheels attached to their scrotum, but I'm rethinking this earlier notion.

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      B.T. Evilpants 8 years ago from Hell, MI

      For 10 bucks, you're lucky if they're the same species. I think 20 is really the minimum.

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      jjrubio 8 years ago

      are we still on this hub?? LOL PRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      and unrelated

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      Christoph Reilly 8 years ago from St. Louis

      Well, yeah Pest, but I was thinking they should at least be alive.

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      Pest 8 years ago from A Couch, Lake Odessa, MI

      $10.00 is emotional!!!

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      Christoph Reilly 8 years ago from St. Louis

      ...or $50 bucks on the nightstand.

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      Love and sex is special, no one should fornicate without emotional involvement

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      Laughing Mom 8 years ago

      Ha Ha, may!!!

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      mayhmong 8 years ago from North Carolina

      This remind me of the song Stacy's mom. LOL

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nVJmwYKy7eM

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      Go with the flow... enjoy life... date younger men... Go COUGARS Go!

      And good luck Iphigenia!!!!!!!

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      Laughing Mom 8 years ago

      CC-are you really now?

      KCC--Pam's right. You're asking for trouble with the full length sabre. I'm surprised Chi Chi hasn't been here since it's brandishing.

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      Iphigenia 8 years ago

      Hey - I'm 51 and was asked out by a 44 year old man the other day. I was gobsmacked, flattered (he's v.v. fine) and totally thrown into a state of giddyness in which I was unable to respond properly. He gave me his phone number ... and I need to summon up some courage to call.

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      focus on living 8 years ago from United States

      Funny stuff... I didn't even know that a cougar was anything other than an animal that I wanted to avoid when hiking outside of Boulder with my sister.

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      Yes, B.T. Evilpants, it's GILF, might just be wheeling herself around this very secnd, looking out the window in search of you... and here you sit, at your computer, shame, shame....

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      B.T. Evilpants 8 years ago from Hell, MI

      I'm not sure you're old enough. 4 years does not a cougar make. Beside, my world domination tour doesn't make it to China until 2010!

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Hey I'm 47, I can be your Cougar Evilpants!

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      B.T. Evilpants 8 years ago from Hell, MI

      Aw man! How come nobody told me there was a hubjacking in progress!? I always miss these things! Hey R Pseudomen, I'm 43 years old. Does that mean my cougar is at the retirement home? Would that be a GILF?

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      KCC Big Country 8 years ago from Central Texas

      I hadn't given it much thought, but I tend to agree with Cindy.  I think the sugar mama is more about throwing money around to get what she wants, where even though the cougar will, she's more about seduction.  Maybe a tad classier.  I doubt that either would get offended if you used the names interchangeably though.

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Yeah, a sugar mama gives you pocket money in exchange for you cutting her toe nails and pouring her whisky. A cougar is an older wild woman that will give you pleasures most men only dream about.

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      sunforged 8 years ago from Sunforged.com

      The cougar is a wiley beast, Ive been attemting for one for a while with no success, which is a surprise beacuse I have quite a lure Is there a significant difference between a sugar mama and a cougar?

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      MM, thankfully no, have not had first hand experience. I am not that desperate. But, have this friend here who shall we say, he enjoys the pleasures of the men here. he says that size wise they are very disappointing, are uncircumsized and he makes them shower the minute they set foot in his apartment. Then I have another friend, she tried a couple and said that western size condoms don't fit. But you know, if you judge their appendage by the size of their feet or size of their hands...you need a free magnifying glass with the pack of condoms. But I am generalising here. Am sure that there are some like Yao Min with big ones

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      Pest 8 years ago from A Couch, Lake Odessa, MI

      Cindy i told you to never tell of my newd pics! :(

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Pest, you furry little ball you!

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      Susan Reid 8 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

      We heard some animal noises coming from the direction of the Forums and just assumed you were pleasuring a cougar, Pest!

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      Susan Reid 8 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

      Here's the saying I heard about why it's good to have sex with cougars: They don't tell, they don't swell, and they're grateful as hell...

      Cindy: tell more about the men where you live not being well endowed! Have you done extensive field research on this? I want proof!!! LOL

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      KCC Big Country 8 years ago from Central Texas

      We all thought the same thing!

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      Pest 8 years ago from A Couch, Lake Odessa, MI

      Where the hell have I been???

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      "Oh Captain, " she murmurs seductively, won't you lance me with your sabre?"

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      mayhmong 8 years ago from North Carolina

      That probably explains why there are now a lot of MILF and desperate housewives nowadays.

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      KCC Big Country 8 years ago from Central Texas

      *squeals with delight* I just love it when a man whoops out his big saber! *wink*

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      RP, how's that? I'd smile too. You did agreat job with this. more more! You even pulled in the prfessor for a good laugh. haha KCC, watch it now, don't get hurt

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      Pam Roberson 8 years ago from Virginia

      GO KCC GO! Wow! You're good! But look out for that full-length sabre behind you that's being held by a rather dapper and snappy looking pirate guy. ;)

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      KCC Big Country 8 years ago from Central Texas

      Besides, you're weren't supposed to tell them that part, Captain. *hides rope and gag*

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      KCC Big Country 8 years ago from Central Texas

      LOL @ The Captain....can you ever forgive me? *bats eyelashes*

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      *smile*

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      The Captain 8 years ago from The Carribean

      The Captain, mildly irritated at being overlooked by KCC, drew his sabre to it's full lenth.  'My dear," he said to the frightened KCC, "they don't call what you do 'being a cougar,' they call it kid-napping!"  Arrrrgggghhhhh!

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      Sheila 8 years ago from The Other Bangor

      thank you. I did soooo need to laugh today.

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      KCC Big Country 8 years ago from Central Texas

      Wow, you just hit 10,000 pageviews......see how good they are! LOL Congrats hub-owner with the long name I don't want to type or spell! LOL

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      KCC Big Country 8 years ago from Central Texas

      I have several comments to make....where to start? I hope I don't leave anything out I wanted to say....LOL

      jjrubio....hun...if you're that sizzlin' now....just wait. Hun, it gets hotter. For me, 37 was that magical year of OMG....look out!

      GT.....LMAO @ virginity......

      BTW, hub owner (your name is too hard to type when I have a lot to say) you ain't been 'jacked' until you're hub's been 'jacked' by GT, CC, LM, Pam, jjrubio, AEvans, cindyvine, etc. These guys will do wonders for your hubscore. You should go ahead and kiss their feet now.

      Regarding being a cougar....I agree that we know what we want, we know how to get it, we don't care if anyone likes how and when we get it, we don't mind picking up the tab, we don't care if you have money, just hang on for the ride if you're lucky enough.

      Can't wait to read the Sugar Daddy hub!

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Sorry, legs can't move today so no kicking

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      Oh no. the whipo again? my bum can't take no more, only if you kick me too.

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Demand, my legs are sore so I'm in dominatrix mode

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      Can I? Oh boy! sugar, sugar. is that a request? or demand?

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Hey CC, you can do a Sugar Daddy Hub!

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      LM!!! I'm shocked that you're shocked! what do you know about MILF's?

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      Pam Roberson 8 years ago from Virginia

      Oh Cindy has a good idea. Someone needs to do a sugar daddy hub.

      Laughing Mom...LOL! :D I couldn't resist. ;)

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      oh God, 20 years woul make him wayyyyyy too old!

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      Yes, much harder to catch unfortunately. Although you can always try... remember the key "20 years degree of separation"... LOL

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Actually, I've decided I want a sugar daddy rather

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      Robert Lee 8 years ago from Canada

      Keep it up... yres, cougars should pay the bill... poor young men... LOL

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      Julianna 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      Nothing left to use my goodness I guess he lost it then , I hope he will find it and get it back...lolololol :)

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      That's because GT has nothing left to use, AE, it dropped off already, I'm telling ya

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      Julianna 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      Oh no , we can't have that but he said he was still a virgin....lololololo :D

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      Laughing Mom 8 years ago

      PAM!!!!! I'm shocked! :-))

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Golden Toad doesn't have body parts, they dropped off from not being used. Wasted away I'm afraid.

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      Pam Roberson 8 years ago from Virginia

      I agree that cougars don't mind picking up the check as long as they 'get some' later. There's an ad at the top of your hub that says, "MILF Cougar," do you know anything about those too?

      goldentoad, listen to your body parts. ;)

      Captain, I told you not to say my code name in public!

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Yeah, K@ri and I eat younger men for breakfast, so beware!

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Grrrowwl, I a am the cougar, and I do not like younger men. (Sorry, but I bet you would not want me either)!

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      jjrubio 8 years ago

      I say listen to your head!

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      She must have been real good, do you have any pictures of her captain?