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Unhealthy Relationships

Updated on August 14, 2016

Unhealthy Relationships

So many relationships today lack respect and love. We have people that are together because they can't financially make it without the person they're with. They are so focused on the materialistic things that they accept their unhealthy relationship. They don't fully get to know the person first. They are so insecure that just having a mate is more important then truly being happy and alone until you meet the right one.

People have loss the real meaning of a healthy relationship. They have become blind to the cheating and disrespect in the relationship. They have accepted the physical and verbal abuse. They have allowed their friends that are in the same situation to give them advice on their relationship. Some have allowed reality television to show them how people should be that are in a relationship.

Some have decided that all people cheat so as long as he is taking care of them financially they don't care. Some have decided that I have kids with them or the kids have gotten attached to them so I have to stay. Some are just lonely and will share if they have to. Some are broken and just have never had any type of healthy relationship to compare it to. Some are infatuated with the status quote that they will deal with whatever they have to just to have that status.

We need to understand that if the relationship you are any is unhealthy you need to give it up. There is nothing more precious then having a peace of mind. It is ok to be alone because you don't need another person to make you whole. Subjecting your kids to this unhealthy relationship is the start of history repeating itself. If you are currently in and unhealthy relationship; you need to take a good look at your situation. You need to decide what is more important; being with someone and miserable or alone and happy?

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      dashingscorpio 12 months ago

      "Some have decided that all people cheat so as long as he is taking care of them financially they don't care. Some have decided that I have kids with them or the kids have gotten attached to them so I have to stay."

      - Very true

      Having said that: Life is a (personal) journey.

      Everyone is entitled to have their own "deal breakers" and boundaries. There is no such thing as a "universal deal breaker". Whatever you or I could imagine one to be there is someone who is living under those conditions who has no plans of ever walking away!

      "You need to decide what is more important; being with someone and miserable or alone and happy?" If they're still there they've decided!

      A door lets those in who want in those out who want out.

      No one is "stuck" with anyone!

      There's a popular notion that these people "settle".

      The reality is human beings (settle) for whatever they feel is the best THEY can do or get. If someone REALLY thought they could have something better they'd jump on it. No one says: "Give me the worst thing you got!"

      Assume there are two cars in a parking lot. One is a 2017 Audi 6 and the other is a 1972 rusted out Ford Gremlin. A person is told they could have either car.....But in order to get the Audi they have to run/walk a marathon.

      Some people would simply take the Gremlin and others would jump back on the bus. It's a cost VS reward proposition. They feel the price is too high!

      Basically people "settle" based upon the cost/effort that's required to have something better. If it sounds like "too much work" they'll take the (easy way) out. Therefore they CHOSE the route that best suited them. In other instances they truly do not believe they have other "options".