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eHarmony Reviews: Long Distance Christian Relationships Dating Stories
When I entered my forties as a single man, my family and friends began to say I would never marry. It wasn't long before I started to believe them. I decided to try online dating which was a huge step of faith for me because I couldn't see how it would work. I didn't believe in long distance relationships and felt the odds of finding the right person within a 50 mile radius of home was slim. What I had never considered before was that even in dating faith knows no boundaries. I decided I needed to trust God and take a step of faith into the world of online dating.
Being a devout christian, naturally I was looking for someone with a similar faith and vision. It was also important to me to find a woman who had saved herself for marriage because that was what I had done. While looking at the different dating sites available, the one that stuck out from all the rest was eharmony.
There were a couple of reasons why eHarmony impressed me more than other dating sites I had researched. First, singles were prescreened on "29 Dimensions® of Compatibility" which were scientific predictors of longterm relationship success." Second, there were several stages of introduction that allowed me to get to know more about the woman whose profile I found interesting, before deciding whether I would like to communicate with her.
I decided to sign up for a year because I had learned from experience that achieving anything worthwhile takes time. After spending several months searching locally for a suitable marriage partner I found that I was having no more success with eHarmony than with other methods of meeting woman I had tried in the past. I was puzzled. I felt I had taken a step of faith only to reach a dead end. In order to meet someone through eHarmony I felt I would need to pursue a long distance relationship. My understanding of long-distance relationships was that they were rarely successful because of the challenges they posed. I became discouraged and almost gave up on eHarmony.
Then something happened that changed my mind. A passage of scripture came to mind. "Jesus looked at them intently and said, “Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But with God everything is possible" Matthew 19:26 NLT. This Vince Lombardi quote also helped: "quitters never win and winners never quit." It was time to take my faith to a new level and expand my eHarmony search perimeters to include all of North America.
I would like to say that after changing my search perimeters that I found my perfect match the next day. The truth is I had work hard at finding the right person for 21 months.
After nearly 2 years I began to grow weary of online dating and almost quit again. Then one morning, while I was looking through my new eharmony matches there she was, the woman of my dreams. Her name was Janet, she was beautiful, had similar goals and interests to mine and required a Christ-centered marriage.
I invited Janet to begin communications. When she agreed we ended up writing 48 emails back and forth over the next month. We quickly became great friends. I knew eventually I would have to meet her in person and get to know her on a more personal level. The problem was that she lived 1200 miles away. We managed to get together for the weekend, once a month, over the next four months. I began to realize that these weekend visits were not allowing me to spend enough time with her to take the relationship to the next level.
I felt I would have to take another leap of faith and move to her town. Not only would I have to leave my job, family and friends but I would have to move to a country where I wasn't legally entitled to work. Continuing the relationship under these circumstances went far beyond my reasoning, but lots of prayer gave a strong peace to keep going. My continual prayer would be " Lord as long as I continue to feel your peace with each step of faith I take, I will not turn back.
I called Janet on the phone and after discussing our relationship we agreed that one of us would have to move. After examining both are situations we agreed it would be better if I moved. Before long I packed up all my belongings and moved to her town. We were married 3 months later. October 15 was our fifth wedding anniversary and through the years we have continued to grow closer and the peace of God that led me to my new home has remained with me until this day.