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eHarmony vs. - Which is the Best Online Dating Site?

Updated on February 12, 2018

In this showdown, we compare 2 of the top online dating websites, eHarmony and As online dating has become more and more common with the age of the internet, people always ask, which dating site is the best. To answer this question we have reviewed 2 of the most popular paid subscription dating websites to help singles decide which one to choose.

This comparison will go over background information on each service, the sign up process, and compare costs. It will also explain the matching process, features, privacy, and communication options for each dating service. So which is better, or eHarmony? Read on to find out!

Background and Basics

eHarmony was started in the year 2000 with the goal of creating long term, meaningful relationships for singles. They use a matching system based on the information your provide to find compatible partners for you. eHarmony claims that over 200 people who met on their website are married each day. Currently they offer service to the U.S., Canada, Australia, and the U.K. started in 1995 with the goal of helping singles find romantic relationships. service is available in 24 different countries and 15 languages. Match lets its users search for other singles based on a wide variety of search options. All profiles and pictures on the site are screened to ensure a quality experience.

Advantage: Match. More experience and more accessibility.

Signup Process

Each service will let you sign up and create a profile for free to see your potential matches. The sign up process for both of these services is rather long and involved, answering a lot of questions and filling out information fields about yourself and what you are looking for in a date. Once you are signed up on eHarmony, they will start sending you Matches based on your information. The same goes for Match, only you can also create your own searches to find other singles. Reviewing matches is free for both sites, but once you decide you want to contact your matches, you need to subscribe to the services.

Advantage: Tie. Both have free registration and a long sign up process.

Subscription and Cost

Subscriptions give you access to all the features such as communication with your matches. Subscription length can range anywhere from 1 month to 1 year or more. Generally the longer subscriptions offer a lower monthly rate.

Match offers subscriptions of $19.99/mo for 3 months, $17.99/mo for 6 months, or $16.99/mo for 12 months.

eHarmony offers subscriptions of $39.95/mo for 3 months, $16.95/mo for 6 months, or $10.95/mo for 12 months.

Match has the better short term deal while eHarmony is better if you are going to subscribe for the long term. Each of these services does offer promotions and discounts to new customers. Here are some of the promotions available now for Match and eHarmony:

- 25% Off subscription

- Free 3 Day Trail

- eHarmony Discount

Each service also offers premium options with additional features that cost extra if you choose them. Subscription costs fluctuate throughout the year so make sure to check the official sites for current subscription costs.

Advantage: Tie, depends on length of subscription.

Matching Process

On eHarmony, once you have completed your profile, they will begin to send you matches based on what they think you will like. You can accept or reject these matches based on how you like their profile. eHarmony will continue to send you new matches as new members sign up each day.

On, you are able to search for your own matches. There is a search feature with many options that you can select to find that perfect someone. You can customize and use these search options as much as you like. You will then be shown the matches available based on your searches.

Advantage: Match. More freedom to find your own matches.


In addition to matching, each service offers a variety of features to enhance your experience on the site. Each service gives a range of ways to contact your matches. You can choose to send a message, an "icebreaker" or a "wink", an instant message, or even a phone call in some cases. You are able to save your matches or favorites to keep track of the ones you like. You can also see who has viewed your profile or who has added you to their favorites.

Some of the newer Match features include live chat with online members and the Events feature where you can meet up with other singles at fun pre-planned events around town.

eHarmony has made nice improvements to their profile pages which are now highly visual and cover several pages instead of having everything on one page.

Advantage: Tie. Both have similar features.


Each service has levels of privacy you can control such as not displaying a picture and not making your profile public. Of the two services, eHarmony has a higher degree of privacy because the only people who see your profile are the members who you have been matched up with and only subscribers can see photos. On, your profile is visible to everyone as long as you have made it public. Even non-members will be able to find your profile in search results. Match does give you the option to hide your profile if you prefer, but then no one will be able to find you.

Advantage: eHarmony. Better privacy options.

Level of Seriousness

eHarmony is geared towards straight singles looking for a serious relationship that may lead to marriage. is more open minded and is for singles looking for dates, but not necessarily someone to marry. Of the two, eHarmony tends to draw an older audience but both of these sites have singles of all ages. Because these are paid subscription sites and they are monitored to keep a high standard of quality, the members are generally more serious about dating than compared to those on free dating sites.

Advantage: eHarmony. Geared towards those looking for serious relationship.

Communicating With Your Matches

Making contact with your matches is the key to success. It's easy to view matches, but it takes some effort to make a connection. Even with all the search options and scientific matching features, finding a perfect match is not easy. It may take time to get a reply or to get your first message. The sites recommend having pictures and plenty of information on your profile to encourage matches. They also recommend being active and sending messages to several different matches to increase the chances of finding someone.

Advantage: Tie. Process is similar. Results depend on the amount of involvement.


When selecting which of these dating sites you want to subscribe to, it comes down to what you want from the experience. If you are looking for a serious relationship and you value your privacy, then eHarmony is a good choice. If you are looking for a lot of search options and don't mind putting your profile out there, then is a good option. There is no absolute winner because each site has its own strengths and weaknesses and caters to different audiences. If we had to choose one over the other, we would go with because it offers more freedom when it comes to finding the man or woman of your dreams. Each service has loyal members who would recommend it. Use the information in this review to help decide which one is right for you.

Winner: Better price in short term plans and more flexibility for finding matches.

Note: Features and subscriptions costs may change over time. Check the official websites for the most current information. Success Story

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    • nelglez profile image

      Nelson Gonzalez 11 months ago from USA

      I have seen the eharmony commercials don't recal any from match.

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      Eva 21 months ago from Philippines

      Oh let me try those. :)

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      dashingscorpio 2 years ago

      Your statement: "When selecting which of these dating sites you want to subscribe to, it comes down to what (you want) from the experience."

      That pretty much says it all!

      A lot of folks dislike the 400 question survey required by eHarmony and not having a say in their match options. eHarmony chooses them. However if someone is "serious" about finding lasting love and marriage minded members they're likely to find more who are willing to fill out the forms. eHarmony is in many ways like an "online matchmaking" service.

      On the other hand allows (the member) to contact any member they want to. One can be proactive and self-directed in their search. You don't have to totally rely on matches the service sends you. Also if you're just looking to have causal dates for the purpose of having fun you're more likely to find more of those folks on Not everyone is seeking a spouse!

      It's important to remember that (you) are ultimately responsible for all of your choices. You get to choose which site to join, which members to engage with, share personal contact information with, and go out with.

      Online dating sites are nothing more than a (tool) for meeting new people. Much like a fork is a tool which can be used to eat a garden salad or a slice of double fudge cake. However an obese person would never blame their (fork) for their weight gain! And yet people who have bad dating experiences online will blame the whole online dating industry!

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      If someone is having one bad dating experience after another they may want to re-examine their "mate selection criteria". The only thing all of your past bad relationships and dates have in common is (you).

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      Stargrrl 2 years ago

      Match is good because you can seek people out and you don't have to go through all of these rounds to get to them. But people on eHarmony are more serious and not players. It's all relative, I guess.

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      Ponderize 5 years ago from California

      I had some less than nice things to say about eharmony. great post!

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      darren 5 years ago

      Thx. It's really helpful for my essay

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      sb1 6 years ago

      Thanks for the feedback. I just published a review for another online dating site called OkCupid.

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      Sambland 7 years ago

      Great post! I think it is useful for those interested in this way of relation building! :)