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Single Living at its Finest
1. Be Happy By Yourself
I know, you have heard it a thousand times, and a thousand times again. Do you know why? Because it is true! Happiness is a choice, it isn't something that can magically be fixed by being in a relationship. Generally, people do not like being single. It is one of those dreaded fears that is instilled in so many people. However, often times people do not realize the benefits of being single, and what it can do with their lives. So many people are miserable in relationships, and end up tearing them apart because they aren't happy by themselves. If someone cannot be happy by themselves, they will not be happy with someone else. So be happy. I know it is easier said then done, but the truth is, it can be done. Look for things that actually excite you, the things that help you get out of bed in the morning, the things that will inspire you to be better than you were the day before. Only you know what that is, and only you can control what you do with it. Think of it like exercise. It won't be fun at first, and yes, you might be sore the next day, but overtime, you love it, you crave it, and you are better because of it. Find out what makes YOU happy, and pursue it.
2. Find A Hobby
A hobby can change so much for someone, and there are so many different hobbies to choose from. Find something that interest you, and explore it, work with it, engage yourself in it. A hobby can be therapeutic; a temporary escape from the stresses of day to day activities; a fun activity; a learning experience; a hobby can be anything you want it to be. Guess what? When you have a hobby that you are constantly using, developing, or working at, your stress levels go down, you feel better about yourself, and you have something to look forward to everyday! I am sure you have heard the expression "If you love what you do, you will never work a day in your life." Well, that is what a hobby is, it is not work, because it is something outside of work that you love to do. If you don't have a hobby, I encourage you to find one; it will change your life for the better. So many times when people are single, they try to fill a void with things that are not healthy or beneficial, so find a hobby and make the most out of it, I guarantee you'll like the results.
Many people might put exercise in with the hobbies, but I do not. Exercise is a category all it's own. Exercise can do amazing things for the body physically, everyone knows that. However, part of being happy by yourself is being able to think clearly and positively. Exercise can have tremendous effects on the mind that can uplift someones mood, as well as keep them physically healthy! Check out this blog for more details on exercise and the mind http://www.spring.org.uk/2013/10/20-wonderful-effects-exercise-has-on-the-mind.php
What is your favorite type of exercise?
4. Educate Yourself
It doesn't have to be a 4 year degree, it doesn't even have to be at an institution for learning. Educate yourself on your own time, in your own way. Do research, go out and learn about the things that interest you. Reading is a great way for someone to expand their vocabulary, and learn new things. Going out on field trips to national museums, parks, and other educational locations are ways in which people can expand their knowledge about their country.There are so many ways to learn, and learning helps us stay alert, focused, and happy. If you can learn something knew everyday, count that as a good day. When people become stagnant in their learning, it is easy for them to become depressed, unmotivated, and unhappy. So I challenge you to find a way to learn something new each day for 1 week. It gets addicting, and what a great thing to be addicted to! There isn't necessarily a "best time" to learn, because learning can always happen, but when someone is single, if ever there was a "best time," that would be it. There are so many freedoms to go places and learn, and so much extra time to spend learning, so take advantage of it.
5. Surround Yourself With People Close to You
Whether its friends, family, or both. Surround yourself with people that you are close to, and care about. Just because someone is single, does not mean they have to be alone. Having people you care about around you, helps give your life a feeling of purpose. People tend to like being around other people, that is why there are so many different towns, cities, and civilized areas. However, being around the people you care about is where the feelings hit home. Make new friends, and experience new things. Being around people you care about helps you discover new and exciting things about others, and also yourself. Someone can only think up a certain amount of things to do by themselves before they start to crave additional input. Take time being single to form long lasting friendships and memories. Being a good friend is one important step in being good in a relationship, and it has been said that: "practice makes perfect."
This is my first blog post, and I thank you for taking the time to read it. I hope the things I have said can help you as they have helped me.
© 2015 Christopher Schmidt