Do you think promiscuity and low self-esteem go hand in hand?

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   S Lynn Mitchellposted 15 years ago

   Do you think promiscuity and low self-esteem go hand in hand?
   
   I have seen many woman randomly give their most precious possession (their bodies) to anyone that would take it. I'm not one to police ANYONE'S sex life, but I can't understand why a woman would risk pregnancy, communicable diseases, and an all-out bad reputation by randomly sleeping with just anyone. I know there is a such thing as sex-addicts, but I have seen so MUCH of this! Am I missing the mark? Is there another explanation for this or have I concluded correctly that women need show some self-love and rank themselves more highly?

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   dabeanerposted 15 years ago

   Nothing to do with each other as far as I can tell.  Some people, even women, actually like sex.   ;>)   Horrors, say the Christian bible-thumpers and Muslim wackos.   :>(   And of those that do like sex, they may want a little more variety, just as they may not want to eat at MacDonalds every day forever.

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   S Lynn Mitchellposted 15 years ago

   Maybe you misunderstood my question, Dabeaner. Although I feel that everyone has a right to their opinion, I truly am not looking for any answer that slurs ANYONE'S religious beliefs. There is a HUGE difference between variety and promiscuity. I am not talking about consenting adults that have more than one partner--it happens all the time. I'm talking about those people (and since this IS under the subtopic of women and self-image, I'm mainly talking about women) who indiscriminately have sexual relations with anyone who shows interest. To compare a topic this serious to "eating at McDonald's" seems a bit trite, but like I said, everyone has a right to their opinion. And as you can see, I made no reference to the morality or religious impications of the action AT ALL so I can't understand where the religious slurs are originating. My question has to do solely with a woman's view of herself when she chooses this road. So now I would like to see some opinions RELEVANT to the question I asked--fire away!

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   Shannon Saidposted 15 years ago

   Do poor self-image and promiscuity go hand in hand, it's
   an excellent yet unfortunate question. The easy answer of course is yes,
   however I believe there are serious and strong societal factors that have led
   many of us to this belief. Here is my... read more

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   self esteem coachposted 15 years ago

   I think it depends on the woman.  Many women are promiscuous for the validation they get from the guys that they sleep with.  Others however are promiscuous just because the enjoy sex.  This type of girl may not get any self esteem out of the sex.  By the way it only gives them a bad reputation because of the double standard society has.  If a guy sleeps with alot of women then he's a pimp and looked up upon by other guys.  If a girl does the same she is looked down upon by both women and men alike.

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   Christine Tierneyposted 15 years ago

   It absolutely goes hand in hand...when a person (male or female) feels inadequete (spelling?) they will reach out to anyone for attention. Good, Bad or Indifferent...and sex is a very powerful tool.
   Think about it...when you are attracted to someone and it is mutual...it makes you feel very good. Promiscuous people NEED the attention...and it can stem from many things. Low self esteem...sexual assault as a child...there are a lot of factors.
   Sadly...working in the medical field...we saw this a LOT.
   
   Christine

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   mystixspringsposted 15 years ago

   I think in some cases that low self-esteem and promiscuity go hand in hand sometimes.  Some women are not comfortable with themselves for whatever reason and they seek comfort in the arms of many men.  As was said earlier, some women as do men like to have a variety of sexual partners.  They don't do this because of an intimacy need they just like having sex.  Women who do this are usually stereotyped as "promiscuous".  Men who do the same thing are "studs" and "players".  Once we stop using the double standard then the definition of promiscuity can be re-thought and a better definition can be made.

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   wsp2469posted 14 years ago

   Yes, sometimes they do.  On the other hand, not everyone has the same set of beliefs.  Not everyone is conservative.  Maybe some women do need to show some self-love.  Maybe some women show TOO much self-love.  I say live and let live.

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   I will say no not all the time......do they go hand in hand, not for everyone at least.  Sometimes it can be a social thing aka acceptance.  One can be promiscuous and have high self esteem as well as confidence.  Their reasons for being promiscuous can vary.....control, to be accepted for whatever reasons, the lack of other things outside of low self esteem or that may be the only they know to relate as well as communicate with people.
   
   Vonda G. Nelson

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    progressiveWiccanposted 14 years ago

    it depends what you think promiscuity is...because you are sexually aware and feel you can have sex when you feel the attraction does not mean you dont use safe sex and birth control . as for a bad reputation...why does someone know what goes on in your bed room and your personal life unless   you tell your businesss.
    so what really is promiscuity...a religious definition of a woman who wears a scarlet letter BECAUSE SHE KNOWS HER BODY, HER DESIRES AND IS MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE SEX WITHOUT GETTING PRGNANT OR AN STD?  I say kudos to we mature women in touch with our sexuality, for that is self love.
    The people who use sex as a drug...to stuff or mask feelings are people with mental issues..but then you didnt seem concerned with mental issues, which the DSM [GOOGLE IT] does find as an illness. You seem more concerned with labels. Based in one persons belief system over another

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    mintinfoposted 14 years ago

    Promiscuity and low self-esteem do not go hand in hand. Promiscuity and a lack of moral standards go hand and hand. If you grow up in a very religious environment you may never understand it because a great percentage of the population live outside of religious standards. Free will allows the promiscuous to live however they wish regardless of how others may judge them.

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    Dog On A Missionposted 14 years ago

    I think alot of women worry that if they don't "put out", then men will just ignore them.
    
    Unfortunately, there is an element of truth to that.
    
    Maybe there are worse things in life than not getting attention from men?

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    Post Modern Manposted 14 years ago

    I believe that, unfortunately, the two cannot survive without one another. With promiscuity, the person has a need to be loved or shown affection or to give affection and to feel as if they are important or worthy of love. With low self-esteem, there comes (with some people) a need to seek out attention and to get validation for their existence. The two just fold over one another, and create a huge mess by creating a set of mental problems that are co-dependent.
    
    Just my opinion, naturally.

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    lostdogrwdposted 14 years ago

    not just woman, men to but if the feeling of being wanted or needed and the fear of commitment. me , been married for 18years and after my wife got educated didn,t want to be with me anymore. was true for the 1st 14 years and then she was her own woman and stop being my wife. to make this short I started seeing other women and many that seeing other men and in 90+ % of the timethe person was rejected or hurt very baddly by someone and it take a while or someone very very understanding to deal with it. and it why this person hurt me or didn,t want me but everytime I talk to another person that they do. bless are the one who never been though this

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    Chicka-Dposted 14 years ago

    I took psyche and sociology in Uni.  This was a very controversial topic in both classes.  I don't know why Christine Tierney 's answer was hidden.  I couldn't agree with her more.

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    passonno73posted 14 years ago

    I think it certainly can.Every person and situation is different,so in my opinion,needs to be determined on an individual basis.

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    dracaslairposted 14 years ago

    yes it goes hand and hand.these women need to shape up.thats why we got baby mama drama.

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    micahjoyposted 13 years ago

    many times I do believe that this is the case, and that the two go hand in hand. however, what about the double standard here for men and women? would anyone question a man's self esteem if he's out sleeping with many different women? chances are they wouldn't.
    
    i think the issue is not so much how many men a woman is sleeping with, but the spirit and scenario in which she is doing it.  if she is consistently sleeping with people she barely knows, who barely know (and therefore cannot fully respect) her, then yes this would strike me as a warning sign of low self esteem.
    
    however, i've also known women who have had many "lovers" -people with whom they connect with, have a friendship with or are dating, and have consequently slept with.  the difference is that their respectful relationship continues beyond the bedroom, and that night.
    
    as with anything, it depends on the scenario, and people involved...

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    alahiker28posted 13 years ago

    If it's true that promiscuity and low self esteem go hand-in-hand, then does this apply to men also?

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    Azlynnposted 13 years ago

    Yes I do. Alot of times women who dont recognize their own self worth will lay down with any and all in order to feel loved. It's sad but it happens.

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    perfectperceptionposted 13 years ago

    Most times. Some who dare to be permiscuous in this day and age are searching for something; love usually. Just in the wrong places and the wrong way.

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    JT Waltersposted 13 years ago

    I think this answer varies form culture to culture.

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    terced ojosposted 12 years ago

    Women have been taught since they were little girls that if they are promiscuous that they are bad people.
    
    Boys are taught directly and indirectly that the number of women they bed is indicative of greater masculinity and something to be proud of.
    
    I have only seen promiscuity and low self-esteem exhibited by young girls who bought into the view that they were sluts and "bad people" because they liked to have sex.
    
    The truly sexually liberated woman doesn't care what a man thinks about the number of partners she's had and she certainly doesn't think herself a bad person because she enjoys sex with different men.
    
    How many men do you know of who sit around thinking bad things about themselves after bedding minions of concubines?
    
    The low self-esteem within promiscuity is generally a product of what that woman has been taught.

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    realtalk247posted 8 years ago

    Often it does go hand in hand. Attention by offer of body parts. This is a new age but remember the highest price is fetch for the least viewed rare pieces not the one mass manufactured and passed around.
    Everyone has a different set of values however let's be honest, let's be real.
    Many women feel sex with secure relationships or make a man stick around. Some women pretend to adopt a typical male attitude and act as if they can have sexual conquests without feelings. Some women engage in casual sex with anyone to keep from connecting and being vulnerable to others.
    The question: Do you prefer soul connections or quick physical fixes?

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