Do you think I should ask her about the broad details to get it out in the open or is this something
I have recently (when I say recently I mean 8 months) been seeing a lady who has now moved in with me. Previously I have been in a 9 year marriage which ended badly. My ex-wife was 11 years older than me and we had what I believed to be a happy marriage both emotionally and sexually. When I first get together with my current partner we discussed several past sexual experiences with my partner telling me she had been in two threesomes with another female and male. At the time I didn't believe the relationship would last therefore it was all fun and I guess I sort of found cool.
I would NOT ask about all the behind-the-door details of her past sexual encounters. If you are concerned that she is interested in a more voyeuristic type of sexual relationship than you are, you may ask her how she felt about her past encounters and if that was an area where she would want to explore further in the future. The details of her past personal experiences are not your business; just as your past sexual relationship with your ex-wife is not your new partner's business. All you should rightfully know is what these experiences mean to you and your current relationship. If your relationship is blooming at the current time, I am sure you will find one of two answers when you ask: Either she is very happy with you and ONLY you at the present time, or she Would like to explore areas outside the bedroom but hopes you are going to be a part of that exploration. GOOD LUCK.
No you don't need to know these details. It's something from the past. She admitted it to you, but you don't need to know all the details, which may only cause you pain. Would you want to tell her more intricate details about your prior sexual experiences? There is no need to ask her for more details about it - unless you have concerns over her sexuality which you feel you need to approach with her.
Alright, I'm going to be the odd man out. I believe that you should ask about the details. Here's why: If it is bothering you that much, then you know that you NEED the details. It might drive you crazy to not know the details. Plus, it's healthy to have an open relationship. There should be no secrets in your relationship. If you truly care about this woman and she truly cares about you, then you could put everything on the table and move on with the relationship. Thats just my opinion...
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