What is the best way to fight shyness?

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   dexixyposted 13 years ago

   What is the best way to fight shyness?
   
   I feel shy whenever i meet a new person esp. of opp. sex, tried different techniques from online articles but all have failed, whats the best way i can fight this?

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   Karry Rozelaarposted 13 years ago

   Just pretend everyone in the room is naked

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   Cory J. Clarkposted 13 years ago

   I have the same problem.
   
   Honestly, what worked for me in finding a really great, amazing girlfriend was to just stop worrying so much about how hard it is to meet new people, and just be myself and let life happen.
   She really just fell into my lap.
   
   Other than that, if you have a super bad ass hero you look up to, you can just emulate that person.  Kind of like wwjd? but with your personal role model in assertiveness.
   
   Just be yourself.
   Everyone has a soul mate.
   She'll find *you* if you are so shy...no worries. 

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   Ashantinaposted 13 years ago

   I think you should begin to appreciate all of who you are. Make a list of your qualities and know that you are the bomb, inside first. That other person is human just as you are, so kick fear out of the way and dare to BE!

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   Darknlovely3436posted 13 years ago

   Maybe you are trying to hard, try not to give a darn..be a 007 kind of a guy..   James Bond and the ladies will come falling at your feet... if that do not work go out and rent some James Bond Movies

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   Julie Loganposted 13 years ago

   Fake it til you make it!
   
   If you keep putting yourself out there, it will get easier eventually.

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   tinawehaposted 13 years ago

   alcohol
   (I guess the hubpage people don't like my funny answer because it's too short.)

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   Butch Newsposted 13 years ago

   Taking a course like Outward Bound is always useful.
   
   Remember everyone else is shy too.  Someone has to break the ice... may as well be you.
   
   You miss every opportunity you don't try.
   
   You won't see what's on the other side of the wall unless you climb it.
   
   You will be dead soon enough, stop wasting time and get on with being you.
   
   If you act like you're in charge, people will be inclined to believe you actually are.
   
   People are natural followers looking for a leader.  May as well be you.
   
   Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.  It's at your local library.
   
   You are worthy.  Keep reminding yourself of that.

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   tysandersposted 13 years ago

   Meeting new people is sometimes awkward for me too. I find that most people particularly females like to talk about themselves. So if you aren't sure what to say then ask them questions like where they work or what they are in school for. In other words, listen and let them do the talking and as the conversation flows add feedback. It's much easier than you may think. Good luck!

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    ExpandYourMindposted 13 years ago

    Dexixy, lots of people are shy, including a lot of great girls. Don't worry so much about how you feel others are perceiving you. Just be yourself and if she doesn't like you as you are, that's her problem, not yours. As others have said, keep going out.  Do some things you really enjoy.  And, don't refer to yourself as shy.  Ask yourself if 20 years down the road, will it really matter if someone turned you down for a date, or you stumbled over your words, etc.  It will not; so don't worry about it now.

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    Dr. Amiliaposted 13 years ago

    Try to pretend like you know that person. Talk about casual things like weather.

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    Rosie2010posted 13 years ago

    Smile.. smiling gives the impression that you are happy and happy people are attractive and friendly.  Find something you like about the girl.. like her smile, her eyes,her hair, her dress or the colour of her dress.. and shoes.. oh we love guys who notice our shoes.  Most women love shoes.  You don't have to talk a lot but be a good listener.. women love men who listen.  Always remember that most people are shy.  I'm shy too.. but I find that when I smile I feel more confident about myself.  My late husband seemed to be the most outgoing person who'd ever met because he had so many friends and he was in politics.  But few people knew he was shy, but he overcame it by being friendly.  I hope I helped a little.  Now go smile at the first girl you meet.  Good luck!

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    showmegreenposted 13 years ago

    Imagine you're an actor and your life is your job. Imagine that you're filming a movie and there are cameras everywhere. Now, create an image of yourself (e.g. who you'd like to be). Act like this person. Simple as that.
    
    My advice: become narcisistic. If you can't, just pretend you're the most exceptional guy on Earth. No one has anything over you. This is not to say to become an asshole. Do it to the extend it helps you with your "problem".
    
    Hope it helps.

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    barbergirl28posted 13 years ago

    Practice not being shy.... it might sound stupid but stand in front of the mirror and practice introducing yourself. In no time, you will be comfortable with the whole process.

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    overcomeshynessposted 13 years ago

    I'm a firm believer in facing your fears. Get out there and talk to people. Practice being more social, and start small if you have to. Make a comment to a cashier at the grocery store. Go to the library and ask about a book. Talk to all kinds of people and women in different situations until it feels comfortable. Then go out into the dating scene!
    
    Also, look into building your confidence and self esteem, because it may be holding you back. Good luck!

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    equineposted 12 years ago

    Find something you are good at and join a related organization.  Being good will increase your confidence, which in turn will decrease your shyness.

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