Is it ok to fantasize about another person if you're married or in a relationshi

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  1. SpiffyD profile image78
    SpiffyDposted 11 years ago

    Is it ok to fantasize about another person if you're married or in a relationship?

  2. Arlie MacGregor profile image56
    Arlie MacGregorposted 11 years ago

    It's a very rare person who doesn't fantasize about other people when they're in a committed relationship. It's normal to have a healthy curiosity about someone other that who you're partnered with.

    However, it's not cool if it doesn't remain a fantasy. If you start obsessing over someone else, dropping hints and comments, or surfing porn when you should be paying attention to your partner, that's a recipe for disaster.

    Unless you're both mutually comfortable with disclosure, keep your daydreams to yourself. Most fantasies should be exactly that and nothing more. Often, playing out fantasies will actually ruin them, because it's never quite the same in real life.

  3. shampa sadhya profile image80
    shampa sadhyaposted 11 years ago

    It is ridiculous. A person who does so has no right to remain married or continue a relationship. These type of persons are not trust worthy.

  4. Violet Flame profile image66
    Violet Flameposted 11 years ago

    It is the nature of the human mind to imagine and to fantasize whether you are in a relationship or not. I don't think there's a straight yes or no answer to your question, as a lot depends on the degree, frequency and nature of the fantasies.

    Is it just a harmless day dream that creeps up when you are not watching? Or is it something more persistent and serious?

    Do you wave it away as it comes up or do you purposely indulge and engage in this mind entertainment?

    I would venture a guess that if it is of the more serious kind, it probably says more about your current relationship then your morality. Is your relationship in a rut? Is it time to spice it up?

  5. Nefarious_Misery profile image60
    Nefarious_Miseryposted 11 years ago

    Just because I already ordered doesn't mean that I can't look over the menu.

    Just because you look at other women, or even fantasize about other women doesn not make you unworthy of trust, or even mean that you're going to cheat.

    It might just mean that you like looking at pretty women.

  6. loneparentgiggles profile image61
    loneparentgigglesposted 11 years ago

    I once knew a woman who told me: it doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home.

    I guess humans always notice others... can't be helped. But I'd rather dismiss it myself than indulge in fantasies that over time would wreck my relationship.

  7. clintonb profile image61
    clintonbposted 11 years ago

    Having a crush is okay..but fantasizing is definitely wrong!

  8. Stone Gifts profile image60
    Stone Giftsposted 11 years ago

    To my opinion, yes, why not? Only if it's just a fantasy and you don't seek a real meeting.

  9. profile image0
    ctbrown7posted 11 years ago

    It is probably a natural tendency, but that doesn't mean it something that should be focused on.  Obviously we all have certain weaknesses and tendencies, but focusing on the good is always better.  Basically, we become what we think the most about.


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