Is gay marriage better then straight marriage???

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   landensnanaposted 8 years ago

   Is gay marriage better then straight marriage???
   
   The straight marriage divorce rate is off the chart.  Are the gays the ones who have the marriage thing all figured out?
   
   

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   Michaela Osieckiposted 8 years ago

   I wouldn't say that, domestic abuse rates are just as high in gay relationships as they are among heterosexual couples. In the US, the right to marry is a relatively new one so we haven't seen what the potential fallout might be yet.

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      landensnanaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe and the straight divorce rate is talked about more... Thanks for your input

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   jlparkposted 8 years ago

   I would say no - they are the same.
   
   But then again, I've never had a heterosexual marriage, only a gay one.
   I wonder if gay people have had to fight for the right to marry, and therefore will fight to make it work, where as it's 'old news' to those who've always had the right to marry (and all that comes with that), so it's "just a piece of paper".
   
   I don't know, but most of my straight married friends would also fight to make theirs work - they took their vows seriously, as did I when I married my wife (twice even...due to law changes!). Some people don't.
   
   I agree with the other poster though - it's new, we've not really had a chance to divorce! However, many of the couples marrying at the moment have been together for many many many years, and can finally get married.

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      landensnanaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I agree but these day it seems to easy to just divorce and walk away... Not how it's supposed to be... I admire the older days where they made it work.. I guess different values .... Thank you for your input

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   lisavollrathposted 8 years ago

   I think the gay divorce rate will eventually climb as high as the straight one. People have all the same problems, regardless of their genders. Couples outgrow each other. Money issues. Family problems. These are all things married couples have to face together.
   
   Let's face it: marriage is hard. It came into being when people lived much shorter lives. The numbers are against a marriage surviving, whether the couple is gay or straight.

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      landensnanaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I agree on some parts but am hopeful that marriage can and will work out if both people put in time and effort ... You just hear more about the straight marriages not working out... Like its so easy to just get a divorce and your done with that move

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   bradmasterOCcalposted 8 years ago

   Gay Marriage is an embryo, and real marriage has been around for ever.
   
   The demise of marriage is the result of the 1970 No Fault Divorce Laws that allow irreconcilable differences to free the bonds of matrimony. This same law will be freely used by homosexuals.
   
   Gay Marriages didn't resolve the issue, any better than Roe v Wade addressed the issue of abortion.
   
   And Gays like Straights that don't want to get married, but want some say about their partner are not helped by gay marriage.
   
   Marriage shouldn't be the domain of the government whether federal or state, and the federal government has messed up by making marriage a function of the government.
   
   It is not equal protection to treat individuals and married couples differently, nor is it equal protection to tax once class of people differently than another.
   
   Why would you think that gays have figured out anything, much less marriage?
   
   The divorce courts with their heavy case load due to half the marriages failing have always done a pathetic job out of divorce.
   
   And that was with heterosexual normal marriages, where they had centuries of foundation. Now there is no precedence  with gay marriages.
   
   So the short answer is that gays don't have anything figured out, and over time they will make more messes out of the system that they have just entered.
   
   It is the government and the marriage laws that set marriage and divorce as failures.
   
   Beware of what you wish for.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   People with one leg have a lower divorce rate than those with two!
   The Williams Institute estimated that 3.8 percent of Americans identified as gay/lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. Essentially 96% of people in the U.S. consider themselves to heterosexual.
   Naturally if the vast majority of people are straight who get married it stands to reason they would make up the vast majority of divorces.
   Marriage equality laws are still in their infancy so we can't really determine if gays will do any better than straight people when it comes to choosing a mate for life within a marriage.
   I believe there are three basic reasons why people get divorced.
   1. They chose the wrong mate. (A "deal breaker" issue arose)
   2. They got married for the wrong reasons.
   (pregnancy, age goal, ultimatum, all of their friends were married.)
   3. They grew apart over time.
   (Stopped wanting the same things in life/were emotionally divorced)
   Sexual orientation has nothing to do with the divorce rate!

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   fpherj48posted 8 years ago

   Marriage is the legal unification contract between 2 unique individuals, gay, straight, bi, or trans. (straight marriages having been since forever, while the others, a very short time) The chances of a lasting marriage or one ending in divorce, are for most intents and purposes, probably the same.  Why on earth would it not be the same?  People are people and the institution of marriage is just that--"marriage."
   
   I can think of no reason nor special distinction between these groups of people that would indicate a possibility for more enduring marriage nor a higher divorce rate.   I'll concede here that time may tell, but that's a long way off from now.
   
   Straight couples and any combination of alternative couples all have similar issues......finances, jobs, opinions, in-laws, tastes, hobbies and habits....even children when gays adopt.  All couples have their ups & downs, bumps in the road, arguments and issues to discuss and solve. Of course there are all the positive and wonderful aspects of marriage too.    Well, I suppose anyway.
   
   "Are gays the ones who have the marriage thing all figured out?"    Only if gays are capable of performing miracles!

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