I have been dating a married guy put our 3yrs relationship on hold, should wait

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   Linda maphalalaposted 7 years ago

   I have been dating a married guy put our 3yrs relationship on hold, should wait for him I love him?
   
   As he put our relationship on hold is because he wants to fix things first before we can continue with our relationship because he said he loves me and I love him too. But the problem is he is full of excuses and he can lie. The problem is I love him even though he has made me cry at some times especially when I miss him because he started to spend less time with me. Making excuses using his children just not to see me.

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   savvydatingposted 7 years ago

   No offense, I'm sure you're a sincere lady, but you're playing the fool. He has put you on hold because he has decided to back out. The thing is, he doesn't want to risk you're becoming hysterical about the fact that he is actually dumping you. He's not fixing things on your behalf. He just wants to be rid of you. Also, for all he knows, you might contact his wife since you've apparently lost your head over him.
   
   You already admitted that he lies and makes you cry. Maybe you like the drama, but frankly, this man you think you love doesn't belong to you. He has a wife and children whom he is cheating on. And you are assisting him in being a bad husband and father.
   
   Face facts. 1)The man has no character; 2)He doesn't love you; 3)You are nothing more than a side dish to him; 4) You need to grow up and get a life of your own.
   
   Time to move on, girlfriend. It is time for you to develop some self respect for yourself and for other men's wives and children.

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      Linda maphalalaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Yves so much you have made me feel better and you have clear up my thoughts because trully speaking I thought I was END of the world. I believed in him so much. Thank you I will do my best to get him out of my mind and heart. My other quest

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      savvydatingposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You are welcome, Linda. Find yourself a nice single man who is committed to you alone & who does what he says he will do. Shared respect between two people is a recipe for true love.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   
   
   In a world with over 7 Billion people you couldn't find a {single guy} to date? Cheating rarely leads to happy ever after.
   "Making excuses using his children just not to see me."
   No, the reality is he was making excuses to SEE You instead of being with his wife and children. They're the meal. You were dessert. When people want to lose weight they give up sweets.
   The goal of most cheaters is to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" (on the side). Very few cheaters are looking to (replace) one relationship with another. Statistically very few men initiate the filing of a divorce. In fact it's almost a cliché to hear:
   "The husband never leaves the wife."
   Hopefully at some point you will come to love yourself enough not to settle for being the "side piece" but instead have a man of your own. If he wanted to be with (you) it wouldn't have taken him (3 years) to make that happen.
   "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
   - Oscar Wilde

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      Linda maphalalaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you so much You just made me feel better.

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   Emmanuel Shamounposted 7 years ago

   Hi, to be very honest with you it seems like you have already answered your own question. You seem like a strong woman!
   
   By what I have read so far, you have noted that this man is
   - a liar
   - full of excuses
   - makes you cry.
   
   You need sometime alone so that you can reflect on the above problems. Ask your self, do you really want to be with a man who has the above characteristics??. It is hard, but overall you need to do what is best for you. Just remember you deserve better and you can do better no matter what. Don’t get stuck into something that doesn’t benefit your life.
   
   Remember this, anything you get into , you can get out of. Live your life with a man that knows your worth, and prioritises you first.
   
   

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