- Gender and Relationships
Why can't I leave Him Alone/He's no good for me
" Why can't I leave him alone, he's no good for me?" is a question that millions of women ask themselves daily. Seemingly it is impossible to sever ties with someone who you have been in a relationship with for a period of time, whether that time is short or lengthy. Increasingly the proverbial rational for this situation is,"my heart is involved now, I love him, he'll change in time I can help him, he's going through I should be here for him and last but not least: I don't want to start over,etc." The first thing that comes to mind in looking reasonably at these dillemas is a phrase called "soul ties." A soul tie is the interwoven bonds of a relationship, the knitting together of two people in the soul realm. This can be positive or negative depending on who you allow yourself to connect to! Once you have developed and even nursed these types of relationships they can be very hard to tear apart. One of the most common ways that these unions are sealed and bonded is through sexual intercourse! You share and even go through some of the same problems as your mate because you have allowed them to "release" into you and your life what they are and who they have become. In other words you are now bonded to their characteristics, drama, etc. This can be negative especially if he dominates the relationship. For this reason a godly approach to dating and marrying is the best way to go. We are so quick to take the union to the bedroom that we don't allow ourselves to be stimulated and courted or even get to know the person with our minds, listening, watching, observing and finally asking the question, "why is this person here in my life, what does he want ultimately and is he here to help me or hinder me." Did you know that when you have multiple partners it becomes like a marriage to each person you are with! imagine all of the left over pieces of debris you allow to be deposited into your life! Remember sex is the conduit that seals the deal. Don't spread yourself thin, find out who God says you are. He says you are more than a conquerer and you have a sound(safe)mind. There is so much more to you than hardship and rotten relationships. Don't allow yourself to be mistreated verbally or physically. God gave you a built in warning system, use it and ask him to fine tune it. Don't tie in to something that will in the end tie you down!