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How to Make Friends

Updated on November 26, 2012

A Guide in Making Friends

Friends can be the most treasured part of a person's life. A friend is there to lift you up when you fall, to laugh and to cry with, and to tell you when your zipper is down. Everyone needs a friend to share experiences with, and more importantly, to share yourself with.

Making friends isn't always easy. It can take a lot of time to find the person that fits best with you. These tips may seem too simple to follow, and perhaps they are, but finding a true friend shouldn't have to take a lot of effort.


Be Yourself

that's who a true friend really wants to know

There is absolutely no sense in being fake. Eventually you, and your "friend," will be unsatisfied with the relationship because it doesn't fit. It's like trying to fit a square block in a circular hole. It just doesn't work. You are not going to be happy with yourself and the direction life takes you if you can't be true to yourself.

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

~ Dr. Seuss

If things don't work out with one person, there is no harm done. Acquaintances are always great to have! Just don't blow your relationships by coming off fake or ingenuine and you'll have a whole gaggle of people who like being around you!

Be Confident, Not Cocky

there is a difference

If you want people to take the time to get know you, then you need to stand tall and be comfortable in your own skin. Confidence shows that you enjoy being you, and that others should enjoy knowing you. To be confident, you need to enter a room with a smile on your face and a willingness to interact. Coming from a person who was born a shy individual, confidence is not the easiest suit to put on. But when you do, everything around you makes sense. All of a sudden there's a pep in your step and everyone else notices too.

Now, being cocky is a different story. A cocky individual will brag about themselves and lift themselves up on a pedastal, which in turn, lowers others. Cocky people can make others feel less than important, and nobody wants a friend that brings them down.



Get Involved

community, clubs, and volunteer opportunities

In order to find friends you need to be out and about. Getting involved in the community is a great way to meet people!

Read your local newspaper and find the events that are happening in your area.

Join a new class or a club that you are interested in, i.e. cooking, art, book club.

Look at the bulletin boards in grocery stores and community areas for opportunities.

Find opportunities on the Internet: Volunteer Match, iParticipate,, Do

Have you ever volunteered for charity?

See results

The golden rule of friendship:

If you want a friend, than be one!

Don't Stress It

relax and have fun

Enjoy the journey of finding lasting friendships. Don't stress over Fear makes strangers of people who would be friends.

~Shirley MacLaine the small stuff or feel like you can never find friends. I firmly believe that there is a friend for everyone. When a true friend comes along, relax. The last thing you want to do is be overbearing and push them away. Just have fun with everything and don't fear what may or may not happen. Trust that you know who you are and that you are worth getting to know and being friends with. All things good come with patience.

Friends Welcome!

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    • malena10 profile image


      6 years ago

      Be who you are is the best for good friendship!

    • DogToys LM profile image

      DogToys LM 

      7 years ago

      Very good topic. It's not easy.

    • SandyMertens profile image

      Sandy Mertens 

      7 years ago from Frozen Tundra

      Great topic. We can all use more friends.

    • AinsleyKlar profile image


      7 years ago

      i loved reading this lens!!! They were really good tips. When a problem with friendship comes to me, i'm totally following them!! ;-D

    • profile image


      7 years ago

      thanks for writing on this topic :) there are many who are unable to find good friends for them, this because they dont know how to behave with people around them who are always with them in all phases of life, but they let them go....


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