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How to get a date with a girl

Updated on October 6, 2012

A lot of guys out there don't know how to ask a girl out on a first date. The one thing to always remember is that most girls want adventure, they want to be a participating passenger on an enjoyable ride. This means your job as the guy is to be the driver and provide the adventure, as well as a lot of interesting conversation.

First let's look at how not to do it:

Guy: "Would you like to go out with me sometime?"

This is the most classic question and it's the one we think we should say, but it's wrong on so many levels.

1. No confidence. You are asking her permission to do something. "Asking" a girl out should never actually be a question. It should be a statement of intent.

2. No activities stated. You put a lot of pressure on a girl when the focus of the date is the date itself. It's much easier to get her to want to come to something that you seem to already have planned.

3. No specified date. Without a specified time the event itself seems less important and exciting. If it's all up to her schedule you send a subliminal message that her life is more important than yours.

4. No reason WHY she should go. Asking a girl out on a date is like saying you like them, if she agrees to it she is saying she has some interest in you too. Sometimes that's a lot of pressure for a girl and such a straight up question will scare her off.

So now let's look at some examples of how to do it right:

Example 1.

You: There's a new restaurant that I was planning on trying out this friday. You like good food, you should come with me. We could pretend we're restaurant reviewers and write in little notebooks every time the waiter comes to the table.

Example 2.

You: I am planning on having a Super-fun games night out. Pool, old school arcades, DDR, mini golf, whatever. You should come. You seem like the type that can handle a little competition.

In both examples you see that it's never a question. You have a plan to do something, you make it sound really fun, you tell her she should be a part of it, and you give her a reason you asked her. In both instances the date has a focus outside of each other. This is important because first dates can be really awkward and showing her up front that the night is about something else really helps to ease that.

So there you have it, think of something creative, fun and adventurous to do, set a date, give her a reason why she should join you, and BE CONFIDENT.

Good luck, Guys!


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