- Gender and Relationships
Where do I find love?
Are you tired of spending another Friday night alone? Are you tired of all your friends smooching their significant others in your face, slowly reminding you that you have no one to smooch? If this is you, wait no longer! Follow these simple steps, and a girlfriend you may get…
Visit places where you think you can find a girlfriend with interests similar to yours. Let me give you an example: If you are a total bookworm, don’t go to a club to find a girlfriend, go to the library! If you are a person with spiritual inclinations, visit church more often. The clue here is to find someone that shares something in common with you.
Look for clues that may reveal a girl is looking for someone. At the library, go to the section on dating. Chances are that girls looking for books in that area may also be looking for someone special. So, take your chance!
Don’t be afraid to ask a girl to go out for a cup of coffee. Yes, I know it can be intimidating, and the fear of rejection can be as big as the ozone layer hole. But, if you don’t ask, you’ll never know. Most of the time, a girl will be flattered if a gentleman asks them on a date. However, the emphasis is on the word “gentleman.” This takes me to my next point…
Be a gentleman
Don’t seem desperate! Try to engage in an interesting conversation with the girl at target. If this girl happens to sound like a potential girlfriend, be smooth in the way you ask. You may say something like: “Oh, I really got to run right now. I have to_______(fill in the blank). But I really enjoyed this conversation. Would you like to go get a latte sometime?”
If the girl says no, then politely tell her it has been great to meet her. If the girl says yes, then go do a happy dance at home. You may be very well on your way to having a girlfriend.
This is an essential part of finding a girlfriend. Most girls don’t want to go out with a guy who cannot take care of his personal appearance. Shower often, take good care of your hair and clothes, and make sure you smell good. Of course, don’t shower in cologne, because this can also give a bad impression. Just wear enough so that a potential girlfriend can remember your smell and desire more of it.
Get in shape
Yes, I know most girls pride themselves in not being shallow. And although this may be true to some level, we’re just humans. What we see is what we want. If you look good, a girl will be more flattered if you ask her out and your probabilities of getting a “yes” can significantly increase.
Sometimes obesity can be a turn-off, so do your best to lose some weight. It will be healthy for your body as well as your love life, and it is another milestone to getting a girlfriend.
If you finally get a girl to give you her number, don’t ruin it by calling right away; this will only make you seem desperate. Wait 2 or 3 days, no more than a week. This will make you seem busy, and thus more desired. The economic law of “supply and demand” also works in this arena. The less there is of something, the more people want of it. In other words, if you seem readily available to call (like, the very next day), that means there is a lot of you, and that means she will want less of you. However, the more scarce you seem, the more she will want you.
If you have any more tips on how to get a girlfriend, don’t be scared to leave them here as comments. Many can benefit from your experience and insight. Ciao!