- Gender and Relationships
How to Get a New Boyfriend
Don't try too hard.
I didn't have a problem meeting guys, I had a problem finding one that was good boyfriend material. Lets face it - most guys are not out there looking for a good wife. Most guys fear commitment. But guys do love women. So what is it that attracts a man?
First, lets just admit that looks are what usually catch a man's eye first. It's is only human nature that a guy is going to notice a pretty woman. Men have varied ideas of the perfect woman and each guy's taste is individual. Some men may be attracted to thin women though I have met many men who are disgusted by skinny women. To each his own. Hair color may stand out, eyes or a laugh.
Men are attracted to women who are certain of themselves. Most men like powerful women or women with confidence. Being timid isn't attractive to most guys. They like a girl who can stand on her own and think for herself. So keep it real. Don't play mental games - those days are over.
Another quality men love is a woman who is smiling and happy. Let's face it - if you are depressed and not together you should not be looking for a guy until you are emotionally stable. If you have just suffered a break up - cool your jets and regroup. Take time to figure out what went wrong in the previous relationship and make sure it is really over.
Neither of the sexes should start dating unless they are emotionally stable. This means, if you have addiction problems - fix those and work on yourself. You can't have a good relationship unless you are in control of your own life first.
That is right! Keep it simple sugar! I consulted the top mens advice columns to see what they find attractive in women and it isn't what you might expect! Simple things will draw a guys attention and drag him to his knees to give you a kiss!
He doesn't want to put you together!
Men are mere humans. If there is a particular one that makes your heart race and you break out into a sweat when you see him try to remind yourself, no matter how cute he is - he is just a guy. For a long time, the advice in magazines and advice columns seemed to almost indicate that you have to trick a man into a relationship.
"Be mysterious!" used to be one popular bit of advice. Dumb advice. I mean, no wonder men haven't understood women for decades. Everyone knows a guy does not want to have to think too hard to figure a woman out. They move on to the next one if the puzzle is too complex.
Be REAL ladies. You don't have to pretend to like every thing he likes, or take up guitar lessons because he plays. Men love women that have their own interests and hobbies. That might be the very thing that sparks an interest in you!
Men love confident women. No longer is the "learned helplessness" syndrome cute. Of course a guy wants to feel like your hero but allow him to change your lock perhaps, or change your oil. Don't pretend like you can't handle anything on your own.
Where to meet men?
If you have interesting things that you do and enjoy - use this as an avenue to meet guys that are into the same thing. If you like photography - take a class. If you are into environmental causes then see if there is a local organization that you can check out. Book stores with cafe's are a great place to sit by yourself and read.
Do you enjoy concerts? Apply for a job at a concert hall part time. Not only would you open yourself up to meet hundreds of guys at a time but you will be making some spending change. If you are into fitness - join a gym or work at one. The goal isn't to make a lot of money - it is to open yourself up to the opportunity of meeting men that have common interests.
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Guys what is your say?
Do you know when you are being manipulated.
Do you like a woman that is confident.
Do you like a lady that wears lots of make-up?
Do you like a girl you can talk to?
Do you like a girl with a good sense of humor?
Do NOT Manipulate
No matter how much women like to pretend guys don't understand women - they are not stupid creatures. Most smart men are savvy enough to know better than to try to guess why a woman does or says the things she does. Men can totally tell if you aren't being honest with him. Even if he doesn't want to admit it to himself - those nagging feelings may keep him from asking you out.
Men, while most pretend not to understand women, they are way smarter than we give them credit for. They just don't make the time investment to figure them out.
If you are talking to a guy and trying to "act" like the kind of girl you think he is interested in? Transparent and a turn off. Guys like women they can relate to. They want to converse with a female, laugh with them and have mutual understanding in many things. You don't have to KNOW everything or love every single thing he does. For example, my husband used to love to ride motorcyles, I do not like them. I wouldn't pretend I liked them just because it's an interest he has. He liked football and it took me about 10 years to even begin to learn what that was all about with him.
If you want something from a guy - take the short route - ask him! Don't waste your time hinting - the smart guys ignore that!
If you do not like something a guy does - tell him. Yep - just tell him.
Here is a scenario I have seen played out tens of times. A girl just starts dating a guy and she doesn't feel he calls her enough. The female will do stuff like, ignore him! Thinking this will make him realize that he is missing something! This might work for you too but it's manipulative. It is a much better course of action to pick up the phone and say to the man, "dude, I would appreciate it if you called me more. Let me know you are thinking about me. Unless you aren't and in that case I might have to look for a new BF!" Now since that is true - I would go ahead and say that.
If the guy didn't call me back then I lost nothing. If he did then I knew he was interested. Don't play games and expect to win. A mature relationship is not a game. Life is hard enough playing things straight forward. You want a partner and a friend you can trust first. If all goes well and you find happiness together, who knows? He could be the next Mr. Right!
Maybe being single isn't so bad?
- 11 Best Reasons to Stay Single
Best reasons to stay single? Divorce! Eat and spend what you want. Sleep when you want. Do what you want! Be happy!