ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

How to Get the Long Straw Every Time

Updated on June 3, 2013

Woe is me

Do you ever feel that you are always getting the raw deal, the messy end of the stick, the short straw? Have you ever grumbled, It's alright for them...? Do you sometimes indulge in a 'Woe is me' moment?

If you answered yes to any of the above, it could be time to look for the long straw.

Raindrops on roses

Beauty in life
Beauty in life

Time to go from the sobs of self-pity to The Sounds of Music... and think of a few of your favorite things! Think of the things in your life that make you feel good, that you feel fortunate to experience. Call to mind the best bits about you. Just stop for a moment and try it. No, really, do it now...

Found something? Excellent! That's your long straw. These are the rewards you get in this bargain you've struck with life. We often get so wound up about what's not working, we forget to notice what is. So it can be reassuring to recall these blessing, to redress the balance if you feel that the world is against you.

This exercise works on two levels. Firstly, the fact that you can't focus on two things simultaneously means that by considering the nicer aspects of your life, you automatically stop dwelling on the negatives. This alone will relieve a good deal of your angst.

Secondly, when you turn your attention to your long straws, you magically feel less resentful of the downsides. It's hard to feel badly-done-to when you begin cataloging all the wonderful things you have. As a result, your attitude shifts, and you go from down to up.

It's Just Not Fair

stay possitive
stay possitive

Allow me to illustrate with a personal example. When I was housebound with a new baby, I would become enraged that my husband could casually nip into the golf club as the whim struck, whereas. I had to plan my outgoings like a military operation. 'it's just not fair!' I would stomp and pout, focusing on my short straw the temporary restriction. But after a concerted effort, I began to acknowledge certain advantages to my stay-at-home routine - coffee with a friend, a spot of gardening, pram-pushing on a sunny day, leisurely breakfast as my husband would rush off to an early meeting.

These were my long straws which I had begun to take for granted. In considering them, I was forced to admit that my life wasn't so bad after all. It was quite a humbling experience and one that put paid to any stroppy resentments.

Acknowledging the plus-sides put the occasional downside into perspective and made them much easier to bear. In fact, it turned out that my husband actually considered me to be the one who had it easy! Perhaps you and your partner have had similar 'discussions'. Many of us have a tendency to believe we are the most unfortunate. But instead of competing for who's getting the worst deal, we'd all be better off of we shifted the focus away from the flaws and towards the fabulous.

Once you start this process, you may be pleasantly surprised at how many long straws can think of. Happily, the rule of 'whatever you focus on expands' applies to the good stuff just as much as the dross. Simply by seeking out your 'diamonds in the dust-heap', you'll unearth more and more of them.

'Count your blessing' - Proverb

new day new destiny
new day new destiny

So the next time you are enjoying yourself, doing something you love, whatever that may be, register it as a long straw. Acknowledge that you have that good in your life. And don't forget, whenever you come across these joys, give yourself a pat on the back. If you are going to take responsibility for whatever is going wrong, you also get to take credit for anything your are doing right! So, if you have maneuvered your life to include these little snippets of pleasure, delight in that too.

The more regularly you seek and find your long straws, the more ammunition you will have when your woes threaten to send you into a downward spiral. But happily, when the attitude of counting your blessing becomes automatic, you will find fewer occasions when you need to use it to find off the blues.

Heart for Sale [Original Song and Video]

Music & Lyrics: Bryarly Bishop

Your Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)