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How to Plan the Perfect Romantic Evening at Home

Updated on May 23, 2012

Going out or staying in?

A romantic dinner date is not about choosing the most expensive restaurant or about showing how much money you spent to put the evening together. A romantic evening with your significant other should be about showing the other person how much you care about them. Planning a romantic evening at home away from the distractions of a restaurant allows all of the focus to be on you as a couple. The most important thing to keep in mind is to have fun and to make sure that your partner does too.

There is no need to wait for a birthday or for the next special occasion. Break down daily routine with these simple tips on how to create the perfect romantic evening for two at home.

Photo Credit: Restaurants in Montreal

5 Tips to Start you off Planning - First you need to sit down with pen and paper and make a plan of what you will be doing for your romantic evening at home.

  1. What does your partner like? What kind of character does he or she have?
  2. Will you be cooking yourself or ordering food?
  3. How will you set up your home for the perfect evening?
  4. What are you going to wear?
  5. What will are you doing after dinner?

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Perfect Romantic Evening Home Garden
Perfect Romantic Evening Home Garden

Setting the stage

If you have children in your home arrange for them to have a sleepover at a friend, relative or simply enjoy your evening once they are tucked away into bed.

The house should be clean, free from clutter and smelling nice. Set the mood with soft lighting and different sized candles. Groups of tea lights offer more light than you would expect. Avoid scented candles. You can also lead the way from the entrance door to the living / kitchen area. Make sure you take all the necessary precautions when lighting candles! Try to include some incense or aromatherapy oils, choosing scents that allow for relaxation and calm.

Select some soft music to play in the background. The volume should be set so that you can still speak in your normal tone. Yelling at each other to communicate will definitely spoil the mood. Try to choose songs or artists that have a special meaning for the two of you. If you have been dating for a long time, choose songs from when you first started going out. On the other hand, if you just started going out, you cannot go wrong with classical music. Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin are also excellent choices for a romantic setting.

Pay a lot of attention to the dinner table since this is where you will be spending most of the evening. Set the table with even more candles (unscented) and your best dinnerware. A tablecloth will make the setting even prettier. Sprinkle the table with rose petals or sparkly confetti.

Flowers are a must. A nice bouquet of flowers will not only show you have made an extra effort for this evening but it is also necessary for the perfect romantic setting.

Turn off your phone! This evening is about you two and no one else. The aim of this evening is to make your partner feel important and special to you. Texting away or chatting on the phone will surely not give this message. Also turn off the television, computer and any other distractions.

Photo Credit: Stylish Eve

Romantic Ideas for your Home

1 X Hanna's 3x3 Pillar Candle (White Unscented) - 3x3-Unscented
1 X Hanna's 3x3 Pillar Candle (White Unscented) - 3x3-Unscented

White unscented candles. Also available in sizes 3x6 and 3x9. Burntime 15 hours.

1000 Wedding Silk Rose Petals Ruby Red by Amore Petals
1000 Wedding Silk Rose Petals Ruby Red by Amore Petals

Realistic looking, high quality silk rose petals.

Manual Placemat, Set of 4, Flora and Fauna
Manual Placemat, Set of 4, Flora and Fauna

Set of 4 placemats to add color and design to your table. Butterflies, dragonflies and foliage motif in a rich green, red and gold colour scheme

Coordinating table runner also available. Backed with easy clean polyester. Machine washable.


Have a good look in the mirror

Dress up! The fact that you are staying in doesn't mean you have to stay in your pyjamas. Wear a nice outfit and make an effort to look like a million dollars. Men should make sure to be well groomed and woman should pay special attention to hair and makeup. It is important that you are comfortable and confident in what you are wearing. This is the time when you should look and feel your best.

Photo Credit: Tom Kelley Studio

BaBylissPRO Porcelain Ceramic Straightening Iron, 1 Inch
BaBylissPRO Porcelain Ceramic Straightening Iron, 1 Inch

Commercial grade porcelain ceramic creates shiny, smooth finish. Porcelain emits negative ions that smooth and relax hair while generating far-infrared heat to protect hair's luster.

Maybelline Moisture Extreme Lipstick, Berry Sorbet #58
Maybelline Moisture Extreme Lipstick, Berry Sorbet #58

Active power of a lip balm provides deep moisturization for voluptuous lips drenched in colour. SPF 15 helps protect against sunburn and chapped lips. Maybelline Moisture Extreme Lipstick, Berry Sorbet #58

Romantic Dinner Table
Romantic Dinner Table


The meal is the most important part of your romantic evening so plan well. Plan the menu even if you are catering. Keep the dishes small and light, leaving enough room for dessert. Stuffing yourselves like there is no tomorrow will only get you dozing off after the dinner. Also keep in mind what kind of food your partner likes or dislikes, and don’t forget if he or she suffers from any allergies.

Many restaurants offer take out services. Do not serve the restaurant food in the plastic containers they are delivered in. Transfer the food in attractive platters and bowls before serving. Only cook yourself if you are confident you have time to shop for food and have tried the dish before. This is not the time to experiment!

Choose menu items that do not need a lot of attention or can be prepared in advance so that you can focus on your partner rather than rushing around in a frenzy to prepare the perfect evening. You can even leave some simple tasks for your partner so he or she can casually get involved while you are carrying out your final preparations. This can also help as a conversation booster and takes the edge of the evening.

Do not choose a dish which is messy like spaghetti with red sauce, or difficult to eat like lobster. It goes without saying that garlic and onion should be only used in small doses or avoided completely!

Give a lot of importance to dessert. After hunger has been satisfied and you are ready to indulge your sweet tooth, nothing says romantic like feeding dessert to each other. Think strawberries and hot fudge or any other kind of fruit with whipped cream.

Serve your meal with wine or champagne. Choose a nice bottle of wine that your partner will like and which will compliment your food. A nice glass of wine will ease the nerves and set you at ease. Getting drunk and blabbing away anything that comes to mind, true or not, is not romantic. Wine should be properly chilled so take care of this ahead of time.

After dinner

Think about what you will be doing after dinner. If you live by the beach, a local park or simply a quiet area, a nice walk in the moonlight is ideal after a meal to get you moving but still maintain the romantic atmosphere. You can also watch a romantic movie together or play a fun board game. Look for movies and games that you both enjoy. Prepare some hot chocolate, iced tea or a cocktail. If it’s cold, don’t forget a nice warm blanket to cuddle up under.

This evening is all about relaxing so why not prepare some body oil and give each other a massage? You can also take advantage of the music you have prepared, put the volume slightly up and dance the night away in each other’s arms.

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Kissing Couple
Kissing Couple

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Remember the aim of this evening is fun!


Keep it simple and keep it a surprise! Over complicating things will only make you feel anxious and stressed.

Give your partner clues throughout the day leading up to the evening to increase anticipation that you are up to something special. Make sure that you plan your evening when your partner does not have other commitments. If you or your partner hates surprises, then why not prepare an invitation and give it to your partner in advance?

No matter what you do, your partner will appreciate your effort in trying to make this evening special so after all is set, relax and have fun!

Have you ever planned a romantic evening at home for your partner? - Tell us about what you planned and how it turned out!

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      4 years ago

      These things sound amazing. I love cooking, so I think I can take over that part.. But how do you "ask your husband out" or in this case not even out but in.. I mean, I would gladly dress up for him, but of course it would be great if he´d do the same thing. How can I ask that from him? We´re not 18 anymore.

      Another thing that came to my mind is a fireplace. It´s so romantic and can underline the atmosphere imensely. if you don´t own a fireplace, there are several other ways to get there, for example electric fireplaces or virtual fireplaces. you can find those on the Internet, for example here:

      I find them pretty satisfying. Just saying :)

      Thank you for your tips! They were very helpful!

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      7 years ago

      I never planned a romantic evening but maybe it's time for such thing!

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      7 years ago

      @SecondHandJoe LM: Sounds perfect! Thanks for pointing out I missed out last night in the quiz...didn't think it would be so recent :) Thanks for your comment and well done on being a modern day Romeo :)

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      SecondHandJoe LM 

      7 years ago

      Well, great food (I'm a chef) great wine (that's for me) great music and dancing we both love it and. . .great god. . . why am I sitting here typing!

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      7 years ago from Australia

      So nice to show that you don't always have to spend a fortune at an expensive restaurant!

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      7 years ago

      Sounds perfectly lovely! Thanks for sharing - blessed by a SquidAngel!

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      ian parker 

      7 years ago from rye

      great stuff

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      7 years ago

      No, not yet. But, one day I hope to have a partner to do this for. God bless.

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      7 years ago

      yes i did and it was very nice :)

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      7 years ago

      I think many of the brides on my site follow your tips great lens

    • Rosaquid profile image


      7 years ago

      Good reminders. Thanks! I'll have to apply the tips soon.

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      7 years ago

      I used to plan a lot of romantic evenings at home. Since I'm single again, it takes on new meaning! Home cooked meal, candlelight, wine, romantic background music ... and then a romantic movie.

    • allenwebstarme profile image


      7 years ago

      Fantastic lens, soon I'll get married, definitely will follow your ideas.

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      7 years ago

      I like the tone of this and choice of photos. Just reading your lens puts me in the mood to plan another special night for me and long-time hubby. Thanks.

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      Lawrence Hebb 

      7 years ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Man, we need this lens. I'm gonna have to sit down and read this through before my next night off!

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      7 years ago

      Great job on this lenses

    • sukkran trichy profile image

      sukkran trichy 

      7 years ago from Trichy/Tamil Nadu

      great ideas. thanks for the tips.

    • PTurner56 profile image


      7 years ago

      Your suggestion of giving your partner clues throughout the day works even when you don't have anything planned. Little shows of affection during the day can result in a very nice night. This was good. You need to write some more lenses.

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      Beverly Rodriguez 

      7 years ago from Albany New York

      I like the idea of dressing nicely. Very 'romantic' lens, and well done.


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