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Is cheating on your spouse and losing your family and friends really worth it?
Cheating on your spouse,
Cheating on your spouse and losing your family? is it really worth it?
I will say a categorical No. and here is why!
I believe that the most precious possession a person can possess is their family.
I have come across a lot of miserable men and women who lose this precious treasure over an affair, which they absolutely believe will replace what they already have. They convince themselves that the grass on the other side is emerald green! What a fallacy!.
For one thing, the children are always terribly affected when they find out what is going on. Their world falls apart , and depending on how old they are, they will react in different ways. Some may begin to bed wet, they may have nightmares, or sleepless nights because they are worrying about what is happening, they may become angry and resentful towards their peers and adults. They may begin to play truant or bully other children . Their grades In school may drop. They may suffer panic attacks or become depressed
Your spouse will feel angry, bitter, worthless. depressed, ugly, they may lose confidence in themselves ETC, You may be so loved up, that this becomes the least of your problems. However, imagine being your son or daughter who has to be looked after by this messed up person! You may think, I will take the kids with me! Is this what your easy lover wants? OF COURSE NOT!
They are in it for the fun, not the long haul! on the other hand,your spouse, is committed to your future as a family!
Although you have convinced yourself that you haven’t done your spouse any harm, Mr Guilty conscience will will surely pay you a visit from time to time! And when he does visit he usually brings increased stress, anxiety ,depression, and domestic violence along as companions!
You will lose friends and family brcause they are not happy about how you have treated your spouse. You will also have less money to spend, as you will have to share it with your family! if you decide not to pay, child support, you will have to live with the guilt for a lifetime! , and also risk losing your children.
Remember! Easy come, easy go!
The other woman, or man, as the case may be, is usually in it for what they can get!
I promise you, they are almost always not in it for the long haul!
Do not decieve yourself!
Just because they tell you, you are the best thing since sliced bread,, doesn't make it true!
As the excerpt from this song by Phil Collins clearly shows!
Easy lover, she'll get a hold on you, believe it
She's like no other, before you know it, you'll be on your knees
She's an easy lover, she'll take your heart, but you won't feel it
She's like no other, and I'm just trying to make you see
She's the kind of girl you dream of, dream of getting hold of
You'd better forget it, you'll never get it
'Cos she'll play around and leave you, leave you and deceive you
You'd better forget it, ooh, you'll regret it
You're the one who wants to hold her, hold her and control her
You'd better forget it - I can't forget it, no - you'll never get it
'Cos she'll say that there's no other, till she finds another
You'd better forget it - oh no, no, no, no, no - you will regret it
And think about it, if someone is so selfish and heartless to make you leave your family!
They will eventually show you their heartless ways!
Last of all, as they say in Warri Nigeria,
'The thing when dey happen for goat house , dey happen for fowl house!
‘Whatever happens in the goats house, is also likely to happen in the chickens house,!
Think about it!
Another Nigerian adage says ; if you plant beans, you do not reap yams at harvest time!
'What you sew is wahy you reap!'
These words should be enough for the wise!
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