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Is Your Husband a Psychopath? A Quiz
How to tell if your husband or partner might be a psychopath.
A psychopath is a person without guilt, empathy, or respect for others. Contrary to what we see in slasher movies, psychopathic individuals are rarely insane or even unusual in any obvious way. Most of them are not serial killers; many are not violent at all. If your husband, boyfriend or partner has had chronic difficulties obeying the law... if he lies or cheats on you over and over... if he is manipulative and makes you feel like his mistakes are your fault... he might be a psychopath. Take the quiz below to find out more.
Is He a Psychopath? About the Quiz
The more "Yes" answers you have on this quiz, the more likely it is that your husband or partner is a psychopath. If you score 50% or higher, there is probably reason for you to be concerned about your safety.
Please disregard the analysis at the end about "correct" answers; this is part of how the quiz is coded, but there are no correct or incorrect responses. The purpose of the quiz is to help you identify behavior patterns and traits that could indicate a psychopathic personality.
If you answer "yes" to either of the questions about your husband putting you or your children in danger (through reckless behavior and/or physical or sexual abuse), it is important for you to reach out to someone for help. His behavior is unacceptable and could cost you your life.
Please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.
I am not an expert on psychopaths.
I'm in the criminal justice field and have studied and worked with prison inmates. Most of these inmates were not psychopathic. I am not qualified to diagnose psychopathic or antisocial personality disorder. The quiz on this page should not be taken as a definite indication that your husband or significant other is or is not a psychopath.
Also, I focus here on husbands and male partners because most people with antisocial and psychopathic personalities are men. Female psychopaths, although less common, are equally toxic in relationships. They have many of the same dysfunctional personality traits as antisocial men, but are less likely to be physically violent towards their partners.
Psychopathic Personalities: Sound familiar? - Have you met someone like this?
Even if you have never been in a romantic relationship with a psychopath, at some point in your life you may have encountered someone with these personality traits. But don't be too quick to judge -- there are other problems, such as drug addiction and impulse control disorders, that can look similar to psychopathy.
Have you ever known a psychopath?
Source Book: "Without Conscience"
This book is by Dr. Robert Hare, the psychiatrist who designed the Psychopathy Checklist (Revised), a test to measure psychopathic personality traits in adults. He has also written the Psychopathy Checklist -- Youth Version for use with children and teens. The quiz above is loosely based on the material in Hare's book. I highly recommend it if you want to learn more about the psychopathic personality.
A fascinating, engaging read for anyone interested in deviant behavior, criminal psychology, or philosophical questions about human evil. If you found this page because you are concerned that your husband may be a psychopath, Hare's book may help you figure out what's going on with your husband and what you need to do to keep yourself and your children safe.
Please comment on the quiz, Dr. Hare's book on psychopaths, or your own personal experience with someone who had a psychopathic personality. What advice would you give to someone who believes they may be in a relationship with a psychopath?
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