Becoming a vampire and love stories
I just got finished reading a third book in a series of four romance books. This is a teenage romance series about vampires called Twilight. Ok maybe someone of my age should read something a little more mature, but I love the romance part of these kind of books and the Imagination that the writer had to put these stories together. I decided to read these because my oldest daughter who has just started her freshman year of college could read them with me. This would be a good way for us to have something more to talk about when she called everyday. Don't get me wrong, I love to here from my daughter and miss her so very much, but my life is pretty boring and I don't have a lot to talk about. Megan, if you are reading this please don't be offended.
So I got finished reading the books and I got to thinking, How come my love with my husband can't be like this book? What happened to the romance in my marriage, why can't he worship the ground I walk on? Why? Why? Why?
I am sure the whining like that as above, has nothing to do with it though. I am sure that men find this kind of behavior extremely appealing. As they find constant nagging and my my attitude that I am always right appealing too. So I decided to have a talk with my husband, and this is how it went.
Hey honey, I asked? Yes, he said. I want to ask you a question ok? Ok he says, ask away. Well I was just wondering if you loved me enough to become a vampire? What are you talking about? he asks. Well I want to know if you love me enough that you would have the life sucked right out of you so that you could spend forever with me, I mean forever forever. So you want me to become a vampire so that I can be with you for enernity, do I have that right? Yes I say. Your crazy, he says. Why is that crazy, don't you want to spend eternity with me, don't you love me enough to want to be with me forever and ever? You really should get to sleep, I think those sleeping pills are ruining your brain. So you don't love me then, that's what your saying then. No, I did not say that, I do love you, but vampires aren't real, there is no such thing, so why should I talk about becoming a vampire when they don't even exist? I just want to know if you love me enough to stay with me forever and if you would die and become a vampire, that's all. Yes, dear, I love you enough to become a vampire and will love you for eternity, now go to sleep.
I am pretty sure that a conversation like this has taken place in just about every household in the world. We women want to know that we are loved and worshipped, It's not like we are asking for much. Just your undying love and attention.
When we analyze the paragraph above, we see that 1, I was determined to get him to say he loved me for eternity and that he would become a vampire no matter how many sleepless nights it took me to get it. And 2, he had little fight left in him because we have been together for 20 years. Really it is surprising that he still has that much fight left in him, he's such a trooper.
I have to say that it is not entirely our fault. We read these fictional love stories and watch our chick flicks with those fictional men doing the worshipping of these unrealistic women, and it plants the seed of doubt in our minds. The doubt of the love you have for us, why does my man not act like the man in this story, Why doesn't he do the things this man did for his love like in that movie.
Here's where it gets hard ladies, we have to remember back to that time of courtship, when they did those things for us, They were sweet and payed all their attention to us. They were those men in the movies and the novels, but then reality set in. Do you ever wonder why there is not a follow up of these books and movies? I'm not talking about the a sequel of the next year or anything like that, I'm talking about a ten years down the road kind of movie. They don"t make them, because nobody wants to see when reality has set in. When the kids are yelling, and diapers need changing and you and your mate are fighting over whose turn it is to change the poopy diaper. When your broke and fighting over how to pay the bills, and My mother hates you and she was right about you kind of reality. It Sucks, that's why!
I am not saying that being in love for that amount of time is a bad thing, it just changes, like your life. So in the end, it is not fair to compare our love to a romance novel, we just have to be thankful for the love that we have and try our hardest to love that person for who they are.